Here’s the situation. My wife grew up in a household where her mother always showed her sporatic love. Meaning her mother would love her, get really mad and pull her love for her, expect the kids to come to her, make them feel like crap, then she’d love them again. It was really drama filled. My wife acts the same way. Totally irrational behavior at times, strange mood swings, distancing herself from everyone, expects people to come to her, is a victim when we fight. It’s like she loves drama or she is constantly testing me to see how much I’ll put up with. This includes very,very, irrational controlling behavior sometimes with bouts of being very rational. It’s like she’s addicted to drama or needs excitement in her life. Now that she’s turning 30, has gained some weight, and has the big things covered in her life (marriage and children) she’s like turning into overdrive because maybe she’s realizing that this is just typical life from now on. How can I get this to stop? Maybe it will level out in her 30’s. I’m hoping. It’s like she doesn’t want a normal, rational life. She also knows she is like this and hates herself for it. It’s like she wants a normal life but can’t seem to do it. It’s like she needs constant love because her mother tested it so much. Any other women out there do this to their husband? What does he do to make you stop it? I’ve tried it all. It’s like I’m expecting her next to say “hey I just had an affair, still love me?” The tests just keep going on and on and…. I want to say “For god’s sake I love you already!”
2007-05-04
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