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2007-02-09 02:46:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Polls & Surveys
I know this is long, but I really need some good advice….
Foreword: I am a lesbian but I am married so that my 6 year old son can have a family. That is another monster all in itself…I really need some advice on my problem below. Thanks in advance and refrain from being hateful…I really don't need it right now.
My husband and I split up for a bit. Actually a long bit. From December of 2003 until about January of 2005. Then I lost my job and we lost the house and I moved in with a woman that I worked with. I lived with her *Mandy* for about 2 months. It was a wonderful 2 months. I fell completely in love with her. She was awesome. All she had to do was touch me and I melted. So many times I wish I would have stayed with her. I was happy. I mean I was really happy. She was a little more butch than I would have normally liked..or gone for...but, damn she was incredible. I don't think that I could ever put down into words what a good person she truly was. I miss her so much, and not a day go by when I don't think of her.
She won't talk to me now. I understand. I was seeing her before I actually moved in with her. I would say it was about 3 months before I moved in. My husband and I were separated at the time and when he moved back in I couldn't stop seeing her. I couldn't. I know that I should have...but...we talked all the time. I saw her everyday at work. The way she smelled, her mannerisms, her smile...everything about her made me feel so at ease. Like that is where I was supposed to be. I felt alive again...like I was in my secret world again. Except this time I wasn't a secret and I didn't care. I mean, it was obvious when we were together that we weren't "friends" if you know what I mean. I was and I still am completely in love with her.
But, it's pretty much gone to sh!t. We don't talk anymore and if you ask the two of us, you would get two different stories. This is my side,
When I moved in she knew that I wasn't working and she knew that I didn't have any source of income other than my unemployment. She told me not to worry about it, as long as I buy our (mine and my sons) own food and help with water and electric it was OK. So, I did just that. I saw the bills and we didn't cause much of an increase at all. We shared a bedroom, although most of the time Mandy and I shared her room. The only times I stayed in the room with my son was when he was scared or something of that nature.
Night after night I heard him cry that he missed his daddy. It was so hard to watch him cry like that. He had just gotten used to him being there again, and now...once again...he was gone. So, I talked to my husband and we decided to work things out to give our son a family again.
Mandy wan not very impressed with this at all and began being short with me the remaining time I was there. I understand. I probably would have been to. We were starting to get very close and then I drop this bombshell on her. To make matters worse, she was very hard to get to know...she had her guard up and finally let it down only to fu
I was friends with someone that was on her softball team and one night my husband, my son and I went up to her house. Once we got there she told us that she had a game that night. She tried to call the coach and tell her that she couldn't make it, but if she didn't show the team wasn't going to be able to play. I immediately went into overload as I couldn't wait to see Mandy, but at the same time didn't want her to see me with my husband. So, I told my friend that I couldn't go. We went back and forth for about 1/2 hour and she finally talked me into it. It was so good to see Mandy again, but I could tell she was pissed for me even going. I didn't want to, but we had just drove over an hour to get my friends and I wasn't about to just turn around and drive home. I wanted so bad to talk to her and let her know that my relationship with my husband wasn't all that it appeared. I still want to be friends; I still wanted to hang out with her.
Shortly after this incident I received a noticed to appear in small claims court. Yeah, after she saw me, she sued me for the money. The money that she agreed to wait on. The same money that she told me NOT to give her in the first place. WOW. That is all that I could say. Well that forced me into bankruptcy. I know it was only a total of $600 but that was on top of everything else I had piled up after being out of work for 4 months. My husband doesn't make crap, so his income really didn't do anything but keep us from being homeless. I don't blame her. I know she was just being vindictive. Hell, I know I hurt her and I might have done the same thing had I been in her shoes.
So now my bankruptcy has been accepted and I am finally paying everything off. I filed the Chapter 13 so I still pay everything back. I was going to file 7, but it's my debt, I incurred it and it's my responsibility to pay it back. It's not anyone's fault but my own that I was in the financial situation I was in. Finally my financial situation has gotten completely back on track.
She doesn't know it, but next month (I have to wait for next month due to some bills coming up…and I don't know about you…but $1000.00 is a lot of money to me) I am going to send her $1000.00. I just wish I could be there when she gets it. I know it doesn't make up for everything, but it's all I can do. Maybe this will help her realize that I really did/do care about her. I miss her so much. I don't have to give her anything...legally I mean. I claimed the $600 that I did owe her in the bankruptcy and she never filed a claim on it. So, really legally I don't owe her anything. My husband doesn't even know that I am sending it to her. And, honestly other than her...no one will know (except for you guys here).
I don't think that I am trying to buy her back or anything like that. I just want to set things right. I don't know what other way to do it. Maybe if I do this she will realize that I really honestly wasn't trying to fu
I feel like I am going crazy…any advice?
2007-02-09 02:46:12 · 10 answers · asked by Melanie 1 in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
1. Moral striving and search for perfection are inherent in man. the human personality gravitates towards humanization of mind the senses--by karl marx
2. Culture of the mind must be subservient to the heart--by Ghandi
3. Culture is the continous inexorable product of man's social nature, human association and interaction
4. beauty is truth, and truth is beauty, that is all we have to know
5. to man, by birth and nature a lover, beauty is a joy forever
6. What is natural law??
2007-02-09 02:46:10 · 2 answers · asked by acque 1 in Philosophy
I get annoyed by all the people that criticize and see all the bad qualities of South Africa!
PROUDLY SOUTH AFRICAN
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we are going to Florida, can any one tell me the dialling code i need so i can ring home to the uk, i knon my std code is 01304, but don't no what goes in front. Thanks for your help.
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am an old age penshioner and am also disabled, their is no spare parking for the people who live here now, where will they park to pick up and drop off the kids, also i feel it will devalue my home, Iwant to put in an objection, can anyone think off anything that i can use with the above in my objection letter.
2007-02-09 02:45:58 · 11 answers · asked by sueu 2 in Other - Society & Culture
My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 8 years all together. It's starting to be same old same old. We have done everything I can think of. Any advice could help! I'm sure there are somethings we haven't done actually I know. Never bought any toys or anything other then bob.
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mine is apple green, yours?
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Fried potatoes are the most delicious things ever. Do you not agree?
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he doesnt tell me he loves me anymore, and when I tell him I love him he seems to ignore it! I think i know in my heart that he doesnt. its a long distance relationship. And when I saw him yesterday he kissed me passionately. but its not enough, i'm feeling really insecure! I'm moving to where he lives, not just because of him but because I want a fresh start. I just feel like I dont know how he feels anymore, and just dont feel special like he use to make me feel. not that he does anything wrong. just feels like something is missing! But I love him very much, every time i see him it just clarifys how much i love him
2007-02-09 02:45:45 · 13 answers · asked by Eevie 1 in Singles & Dating
and how exactly can anyone look like a sugar in a plum?
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to mend a ripped, stomped on, torn into pieces heart?
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my new picture that is...? lol
2007-02-09 02:45:35 · 20 answers · asked by Oklahoma Economist 6 in Polls & Surveys
I have used Rs.1.0 lakh leaving a balance of Rs.50,000 available for benefiting, for the house I purchased at Chenni and let out. I work at Bangalore and pay a rent of Rs. 7500 p.m.
2007-02-09 02:45:32 · 2 answers · asked by HARINATHAN K 1 in India
I can't find it in a literature book.
Internet searches only bring up quotes with the word "disembodied"
Also, it may be the same thing as a Ghost Quotation.
(So, what's a Ghost Quotation?)
Thanks in advance!
2007-02-09 02:45:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Quotations
me & my girl are having a small dissagreement over what movie it was! please help!
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just wondered mines coffee what about you s
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NOT THIS AREA??
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besides, legumes, tofu, and dairy
I want to become a vegeterian because I don't like eating meat. Thanks!
2007-02-09 02:45:16 · 14 answers · asked by Atousa 3 in Vegetarian & Vegan
Its like i dont drive and i plan to make it simple but special and i dont want to let him know what iam planning...so i think getting something online is the best idea!!..help me!!!
2007-02-09 02:45:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Valentine's Day
it's this little girl in my son's class that loves my son, and the teachers think it's cute, they take pictures together and sit next to each other everyday.. so valentines day is near and there having a party at school.. do you see anything wrong with my son giving her a gift,, its a stuffed dog in a basket with little candy hearts.. and the rest of the class will get a bag with little candy hearts in it.. my husband said it's wrong that i'm starting something???????
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Who came first Adam & Eve, The Caveman, or the Dinosours?
Do you have any proof and in what order did they come.
2007-02-09 02:45:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Mythology & Folklore
Me and my husband just bought this home and we have 4 children and didnt notice that the paint didnt have a glossy finish to it please HELP........
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