My husband and I have been married for 4 years and together for 8 years all together. It's starting to be same old same old. We have done everything I can think of. Any advice could help! I'm sure there are somethings we haven't done actually I know. Never bought any toys or anything other then bob.
2007-02-09 02:45:57 · 9 answers · asked by Teresa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do do it in other places other then the bedroom but thanks for that. My husband isn't really into going into a porn shop with me to well neither for some reason! :( I have went before by myself though and bought a sexy outfit and we do use lubes sometimes and we do watch porn sometimes!
2007-02-09 03:45:29 · update #1
I would venture to say your whole life has become routine even your sexuality. You can't solve a problem at the same level of thinking that created; that being said; you both need to start seeking out new understandings about sexuality and is starts with your individual sexual persona.
If you want a long term solution start taking stock in your own sexual perception and learn how to step out of your usual box. Take a close look at your beliefs especially where it concerns your religion, culture, and family even friendships. It should be only two people in the bedroom you and your husband. Your only goal should be how to please each other but you have find out what that is first. Start taking to each other openly and honestly. Through trust and honesty with full disclosure is the path to deep intimacy and sexual passion.
Leave behind the ghost and skeleton of limiting past beliefs learned from anywhere else throughout your life. Marriage is an adventure that can lead to the most satisfying relationship of your life. You both have to become courageously real with each other to unleash the sexy beast hidden deep within you. This require you being real with yourself and sharing it with your mate. As you begin to open up with each other your real adventuresome selves will come alive. As you discover your wild side sex will be made fun no matter where you are.
What most people don't understand couples make love to each other in every thing they do in life. Sensuality and sexuality is slowly diminished through other issues in the union and this happens under our radar in most cases. Start the journey of understanding all areas of your life. Talking and arguing can be a very healthy aphrodisiac when couples are really listening to each other and willing to take real steps to solve issues. None action will equal the loss of intimacy and eventually the union.
I will say this, women must feel and men respond to images when it come to sexuality. Ask your hubby what kind of sexy things he would like to see you wear daily around the house. Go out, get them, and wear them whenever you can!!! As a woman this will also make you feel sexier. Get rid of all underwear when you enter your intimate space / home. There is nothing sexier than catching glimpse of your partner’s private that is given just to you…playfulness if very important to the sensuality of the union. I spontaneously smack my girls but to send the message she is still sexy to me. I just love it when she is in her cute housedress without underwear and flips me a shot of her sexy butt. Use pet names with each other that are only shared intimately together. Take the time, without distraction, sit in a room your feel most sensual and light some candles and just be with each other. Use this time to read material on new positions, pleasure techniques, and just giggle like to little kids. Satisfying sex takes skill so do not expect fireworks right away. Have fun looking silly in front of each other. This will also improve how you get along in other areas of your relationship. Remember your home is your union's intimate space together so create it in to something wonderful that represents the love and appreciation you share for each other. Positive memories are the biggest turn on in the long run.
You have to do what works for you and your precious hubby. So start communicating and discovering and practicing. Become experts on the subject of each other.
TS
2007-02-09 04:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you haven't bought toys, then you haven't done everything. You need to look into different possitions, look at some porn and figure out if you would like to do some of the things they are doing, role playing, go to an adult store together and buy some toys for the both of you...and, no more bobs. There are all kinds of toys out there. And, last, but not least, if you have something you want to try and have been too afraid to tell your partner, now is the time to do it. Communication is everything.
And, like everything in life too much of one thing is not always a good thing. So, when you experiment, don't over do it and do it all the time because then that will get boring too...just do something really exciting in between more intimate times.
2007-02-09 02:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is talk about it. If you are uncomfortable with that or don't want to hurt him casually open the subject when you are out and about. If you are driving by a sex store ask him to stop in because you are curious. When inside start "joking" about some things you would like to try. He will have the biggest erection of his life "all week long!" If this goes well make sure you take advantage of this opportunity to open the floor for discussion. Make sure you do not make him feel inadequate, because his performance will suffer for months! Happy Sex To You!!!
2007-02-09 02:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u said u have done everything, but still u want more. What u have to understand is that ur looking at the physical side of sex, think about the mental part of it. while u are there just relax and let him do his stuff nice and slow to ur comfort just think about him, think about the look on his face before he climaxes, think about how he tells u he likes it and just let it flow nice and easy.
think about him kissing u all over, and how much u enjoy making love to ur husband......all that will help.
2007-02-09 02:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into Role Playing (escape convict & the Wardens Wife), Jackrabbit, plugs, Sex Swing. Wait for him at the door with a trenchcoat and nothing else. toooooooo many to list
Have sex in different places not just the bedroom.
2007-02-09 03:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toys certainly do help, also have you ever tied him up or let him tie you up? Add a blindfold to the mix and you certainly create some different feelings in your partner!!!
2007-02-09 02:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, looks like you just answered your own question..... you go TOGETHER to the adult store and pick out some toys and movies. use your imagination, ask him what his fantasies are and try to act them out! there is not limit to the pleasure you can bring each other if you just get creative enough!!!! good luck and have fun.
2007-02-09 02:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same exact way, my husband and i have been together for 7 years and i am starting to feel like ho hum, we have tried toys and they definitely helped but it just seems like the passions gone, ill be watching for answers to this too, good luck.
2007-02-09 02:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
role play,toys that are for both (they have a part for you and one for him) TO BE USED DURING SEX,STIMULATION CREAMS,DRESS SEXY LET HIM TAKE PICS ,YOU TAKE PICS OF HIM MAYBE ONLY IN BOXERS OR A TIE ,YOU CAN ALWAYS DELETE THEM AFTER BUT THE EXPERIENCE IS FUN , OR VIDEO HOPE THIS HELPS .
2007-02-09 02:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋