I'm 22, live in NYC, I'm a very good looking guy but I think what I need is just more confidence. I haven't had sex in a year and a half, it's been killing me, can't "do it by myself" forever, I want to be able to go out to bars/clubs and have some safe, sane, and fun one night stands just like other guys do (not looking for relationships right now, f*** buddy is a different story). The thing is they say you shouldn't go to bars/clubs by yourself, I don't have anyone I to go with, a lot of the people I know always have other plans and crap or they procrastinate and back out the last minute. I don't have a "wingman" like all you other guys do. One time I went to a club by myself, the line was long, when I was next on line, the person admitting people in asked the group in front of me if I was with them, they said no, I felt so embarrassed cuz I was the only one on line by myself, everyone looked at me funny.
So I don't know what to do, I keep looking at hookers on craigs list and what not but keep hesitating because I don't want to pay for sex, but at the same time I don't want to go to a bar all nervous and not know what I'm doing. I know how to carry a conversation with women but I just need more help initiating and "closing the deal". I know what you're all thinking, if I'm good looking then girls would be chasing me and I'd have no problem, well yeah I get a few compliments here and there but they are rare and usually don't go nowhere. And trust me, I'm not ugly, not to sound conceited, but I know I'm not and have pics to prove it. I don't mind going to a bar by myself as long I know what I'm doing, but I think it's going to be difficult, there will be some guys hogging all the attention, and even worse there will be girls who are not by themselves which makes them harder to approach.
So I'm lost here. Hookers are the last route I wanna go down because of the money, I feel like good looking guys shouldn't have to pay for it. But I'm getting real desperate and dont know what to do.
Any advice? I'd appreciate some thoughtful responses please, no offense, I know a lot of folks on here like to joke around with funny one-line responses and what not, and I will admit a lot of them are laughout loud hilarious, I have no prob with you guys, but I'm really looking for something insightful here though. Thanks, I'd really appreciate it.
2007-02-09
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