it's this little girl in my son's class that loves my son, and the teachers think it's cute, they take pictures together and sit next to each other everyday.. so valentines day is near and there having a party at school.. do you see anything wrong with my son giving her a gift,, its a stuffed dog in a basket with little candy hearts.. and the rest of the class will get a bag with little candy hearts in it.. my husband said it's wrong that i'm starting something???????
2007-02-09 02:45:04 · 35 answers · asked by ladytee 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
There's nothing wrong with it. You are helping your son learn about friendships with girls, a fine art. Friendships are different with boys and girls. It's sad that men are taught that to have a friendship with a woman it has to be sexual. They are taught that from such a young age. It's ridiculous. It sounds like you have the makings of a real gentleman.
2007-02-09 02:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by GeminiVirgo1971 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it ... but you may want to do the stuffed dog thing desceetly so the other kids don't feel left out...
What are you starting? they like each other... if it were a boy and it was the friends birthday... and your son gave him a present but the rest of the class wasn't brining in gifts would there be a problem...
Look at 4 it is nothing but friendship... as long as you as a parent aren't emphasizing LOVE... or Man & Woman type affection or talking about her as his girlfriend then it is ok... IMHO...
They are friends and there is nothing wrong with giving a friend a gift... the question you have to ask yourself is... "is this gift an appropriate gift for a 4 year old to give to a four year old"...
Like a dozen roses would be over the top... not appropriate... as would a big box or chocholate in a heart shaped box that says I love you...
A valentine teddy... with candy... 4 year olds see it as just that a valentine teddy and valentine candy... 4 year olds will not read into that as meaning anything more... the other 4 year olds probably haven't started making that boy girl distinction in such a way that boys are making fun of other boys for playing with a girl... and visa-versa... that start happening at school age... and then not even so much in kindergarten...
All that being said... you should have your husband explain what he means... perhaps he is right! either way you two are the parents and should make that decision together...
2007-02-09 02:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-28 21:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by riopel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with that, and to stifle his development in expressing love could cause complications later in life. I remember when I was in kindergarten I got caught kissing a black girl, so the nun slapped the Jesus out of me with a ruler. Something so totally cute and innocent was subconsciously metamorphed into an overriding subliminal fear. As such, I now feel skittish around BBBWs. Every time I check out that caboose, somewhere in the back of my mind I am thinking "Please God, don't send the penguins of hell". I can even use a yardstick without hyperventilating.
Besides, if he doesn't imprint his affections on other girls, he might wind up being a momma's boy with some sick internalized Norman Bates complex and start wearing your panties while you're at the store.
2007-02-09 03:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by DarkLord_Bob 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong but maybe he should give her the same as the rest of the class and then when class is over he can give her the stuffed bear. It is cute that they like each other but it isn't fair to the other kids for him to give her something special During class.
2007-02-09 02:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with that at all, it is very cute. I still remember when my teacher in 3rd grade made arrangements for a boy that liked me (and I liked) to meet after class - not infront of other students, so as not to be embarassed - so that he could give me a special valentine. It was a teddy bear and a box of chocolates (bought by his mom). That was almost 20 years ago - go for it!
2007-02-09 02:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mia 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
how can friendship between two kids ever be wrong ,
this is never a wild romance ,many kids are friends with others at an early age
by all means let them give each other gifts and celebrate the fact.
and what if you did start something
what would you start .???a lifelong friendship .???
you are right that is a horrble thought ,to terrible to think about
you people are crazy
2007-02-09 02:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The situation the school has put them in is ridiculous. Are we at a point now where we need to teach infants the commercial destruction of the true meaning of holidays.
As adults we already understand that Christmas and Valentines day and many others are excuses for retailers to sell expensive things to us. We need to acknowledge that if we are motivated to do something special for our loved ones only because it's a certain day of the year, then we have things backwards.
2007-02-09 02:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nicnac 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
YES, Your husband is RIGHT. At 4 years old children have a lot of jealousy. Give all the kids the SAME thing, then if you want give the someone special the extra in private AWAY from the other children.
2007-02-09 02:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by D.C 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
tell your husband to shut up and let the little boy be in love...hes only 4..its not like he can get her pregant!
2007-02-09 04:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by moviebuff 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋