What is a “normal” between one's public vs. private persona? In public, my wife is smiling, friendly, soft spoken, easy going, polite, and deferential etc.
But when we are alone, she is also often: angry/occasional raging, annoyed, irritated, harsh, and even somewhat verbally abusive when I do something that bothers her. Often she's fine in a couple minutes.
My wife is about ten years older then me; and admits she has an “Irish temper”. She has a lot of fears e.g. flying, elevators, germs, separation anxiety, stormy weather, etc, and I sometimes think her fears get redirected into anger.
I really don’t like this kind of behavior—especially when it’s directed towards me, and I feel all sapped of energy, and a “wiped out/run over by a truck” feeling. I'll occasionally bring up her behavior, and she’ll usually acknowledge it as inappropriate and say she’ll be more aware of it and not engage it it, but then it will happen again in no time.
Often I blame myself/feel guilty...Advice?
2007-01-17
01:59:40
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robert b
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Marriage & Divorce