hi..
a guy proposed me yesterday..
he is not a good guy...he can harm me if i refuse...and i cant accept it!!!!!
i dont love him............what should i do?????
please please help!!
2007-01-17 02:00:44 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friend had this kind of problem earlier. She never left home alone, I was always there with her. Still he had the cheeks to stop us on the way and propose her. On my interference, he said, "this is our personal matter, you may please not interfere", what can be personal between two strangers, and I gave him good there and then, after which whenever he saw me around with my friend, he kept distance and changed his way. So I suggest you too, to take a friends help and disgrace him in public for harassing you, if does so. Until then, just ignore him.
Secondly, I also suggest you to just wear a Mangal Sutra around your neck, for him to believe you are married. If he has any decency in him, he will go his way.
Bye, Good Luck
2007-01-17 03:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by keentoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who can harm you if you refuse his proposal doesnt love u. Love doesnt envy, love is kind, love is long suffering or so says the bible. Date him in public places, tell him you hearts feelings, say NO, if you dont love him.
Dont give in for just because you sympathise with people. If you agree to marriage, then imagine yourself living with him for the rest of your life! All this time " I cant accept it". Will you forgive yourself.
If he harms you, then the law will take its course, the police, the courts. Let the criminal rot in prison.
Why public dating! if he is not a good guy, then probably he want a quick lay, and he can date rape you! Beware of strangers.
2007-01-17 02:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by oluocheli 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well love is a natural thing it cannot be manufactured if you don't like the guy just tell him , why are you so worried India is not a lawless country the boy can do you no harm if you face him with brave intentions. And after that if he still tries to disturb you take legal help.
2007-01-17 02:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by bengalhulo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not accept of course!
You should not be intimidated by his overbearing attitude either.
If you act like you are afraid to offend him or confront him, he will continue to pursue and stalk you.
If it were me I would tell him in no uncertain terms to back off.
And make sure that there are lots of witnesses when you do it.
Other men are not going to just stand around and let some guy assault you.
If he refuses to leave you alone after you do that then you go to the police and tell them that he is stalking you.
If you don't act like a victim there is a lot less chance that you will be one.
2007-01-17 02:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say get yourself away from this man.
Tell him you cannot marry him in a public place.
Find somewhere safe to go (for example a woman's refuge) he will know where you live and he may try to hurt you there.
Wait for the ground to settle.
Consider your own safety first.
The way i look at this if he does hurt you if you say no it is better to get hurt the once than the rest of your life.
Be safe!!
Good luck
2007-01-17 02:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment you smell foul keep distance. That's advice for the future. For the present, do not be alone whenever you sight this guy. Trust your self and face it. Seek help from friends, specially if you have a common friend.
2007-01-17 03:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anuj P1952 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops, get a restraining order against him and walk away a free girl. Heh, not the best asnwer but its something. Bring someone along to follow you, make sure its public.
2007-01-17 04:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kataxenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "NO" and then tell him you are engaged to me. Why is he proposing in the first place??? Are you, or have you, been dating him?? If he is "not a good guy", why is he even in your life?? Get rid of him, he has no claim on you, and has NO right to even threaten you regardless of what your response is!!!
Any man that beats on a woman is NO MAN!!!!
2007-01-17 02:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by luvsbjs_418 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What kind of harm?
if it iz really bad, like life threating call the police.
if it is not that kind of bad thenu can always get him to like another woman. Or u can get another man and cheat so u can him jelous and they might fight, but not with u.
2007-01-17 02:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by dacoolstas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him no but choose a public place so that if he starts to raise too much fuss help wil be close. Then if he bothers you get a restraining order and make a police report.
2007-01-17 02:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋