I have known my 14-yr-old stepdaughter for only eight months. Her dad and I have been married for four months. She lives with her mom full-time. There are also three stepsons who live with us 50% of the time. I have a wonderful relationship with them! They are 11, 7 & 6. My stepdaughter has had a bad relationship with her dad since he split with his ex (who had had an affair, and wasn't interested in reconciling). She poisoned the daughter against him. He has tried and tried to have a relationship with her, but it is like a rollercoaster...off and on like a light switch. Now her reason for not seeing him is ME! She told him that she doesn't respect me, and that she probably never will. He told her that he's sorry she feels that way, but that I am his wife, I have never mistreated her, and have loved her just like I do the boys. We invite her over, to go on outings, etc., but she won't come because of my daughters and I...who have only treated her with respect...even though she always acts like she is mad at us. At one time she and I were friendly, and she and my daughters even called each other sisters (they are 12 & 14, by the way), but her mother ruined that too. Should I even try? Even my husband wants to give up. I know he can’t and shouldn’t, but should I try to contact her at all? She and I used to e-mail all the time, but she stopped responding to me. Is there anything I can do? Is there anything he can do? We don’t want to “lose” her.
2006-10-30
05:26:03
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