You have a son(Alex) age 5 and a daughter(Lilly) age 2.Imagine Alex has hit Lilly.What would you do?Spank him?Is this the best you can do?
When you hit the child,he thinks like this:
1."Older can hit younger.When I am older,I'll hit the others"(which is not very good for your grandchildren,right?).
2."People beat the others when they are angry.When I get angry,I'll hit the others."(I start tomorrow in kindergarten).
3."I'm a bad child and I'll never be better and people will never like me."(do you want your son to grow up thinking like this?)
4."I have to be more careful so mom/dad won't see me what am I doing"(I'll be good while I'm looked after).
Did you see "I won't hit my sister anymore"?Of course not!If the child had to be taught not to hit,that is rediculous way to teach him.What do you want to do when someone hurts you?How do you react when someone tries to control you?How do you feel when someone disappoints you?Do you think this approach will make you behave better?
2006-09-13
06:07:17
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Eliza N
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