I am reposting this because I want more input on the situation.
I know you may get these alot, but I kind of need some help on this one. I have known this girl for 3 years and didn't realize until just recently (about 3 months ago) that I loved her. I had to tell someone about it and so I told my best friend's girlfriend. We are really good friends too. She told me that I had to tell her that I loved her because she didn't want me bottling it up inside forever. And she kind of gave me a deadline to tell her so I would muster up some confidence and say something. So the last day that I am able to see her for a while, I decide to do it. I told her I loved her and she gave me a hug and told me that she was okay with it.
But then I kind of screwed up. She seemed a little different toward me so I had a talk with her later on IM about it. You see, here is the twist. She has a boyfriend and they've broken up a couple times. Each time I waited (so I wouldn't hurt her) for the right time to ask her out but they got back together again. And I love her so I don't want her to get hurt. Ex: I don't want to wish her current relationship to go wrong just so I can have her. But I want to be with her so much and so I continued to talk to her about it. That eventually made her angry and now we are at the present. She is cool with me (seeing as we've been friends for 2 years) but I feel that our friendship changed because of this situation.
I think that deep down she feels like I am trying to ruin their relationship and I think I ruined the trust she had in me. This hurts me really bad because I want our friendship to revert back to what it was but this love situation is complicating things. I don't know what to do when I love her so much and see her everyday as a friend because it makes me think of how I probably will never have her.
What do you do when she has a boyfriend but you have these feelings for her? I know love means letting things go, but she is so perfect to me. It seems like I'd be giving up everything if I moved on. At the most though, I really value our friendship want to keep it.
How do I really show her how I feel without doing anything to ruin her relationship with her boyfriend? Cuz I don't think she thinks I know her enough to be in love with her.
2006-06-18
20:19:00
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