I am reposting this because I want more input on the situation.
I know you may get these alot, but I kind of need some help on this one. I have known this girl for 3 years and didn't realize until just recently (about 3 months ago) that I loved her. I had to tell someone about it and so I told my best friend's girlfriend. We are really good friends too. She told me that I had to tell her that I loved her because she didn't want me bottling it up inside forever. And she kind of gave me a deadline to tell her so I would muster up some confidence and say something. So the last day that I am able to see her for a while, I decide to do it. I told her I loved her and she gave me a hug and told me that she was okay with it.
But then I kind of screwed up. She seemed a little different toward me so I had a talk with her later on IM about it. You see, here is the twist. She has a boyfriend and they've broken up a couple times. Each time I waited (so I wouldn't hurt her) for the right time to ask her out but they got back together again. And I love her so I don't want her to get hurt. Ex: I don't want to wish her current relationship to go wrong just so I can have her. But I want to be with her so much and so I continued to talk to her about it. That eventually made her angry and now we are at the present. She is cool with me (seeing as we've been friends for 2 years) but I feel that our friendship changed because of this situation.
I think that deep down she feels like I am trying to ruin their relationship and I think I ruined the trust she had in me. This hurts me really bad because I want our friendship to revert back to what it was but this love situation is complicating things. I don't know what to do when I love her so much and see her everyday as a friend because it makes me think of how I probably will never have her.
What do you do when she has a boyfriend but you have these feelings for her? I know love means letting things go, but she is so perfect to me. It seems like I'd be giving up everything if I moved on. At the most though, I really value our friendship want to keep it.
How do I really show her how I feel without doing anything to ruin her relationship with her boyfriend? Cuz I don't think she thinks I know her enough to be in love with her.
2006-06-18 20:19:00 · 7 answers · asked by Aaron 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi man. I had a story like this some months ago. I couldn't do nothing, because I didn't want to ruin their love for each other. I just waited, and after three months they broke up. And she understood that I loved her, and really liked it. I think you should just wait.Maybe you should make activities with other friends, that can help you not to think about your friend.
I really think that you'll win her heart.
2006-06-18 20:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Genadi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They have broken up gotten back together broken up etc. I know that kind of relationship I amin that kind of relationship right now.If your friend knows how you feel, honestly knows how you feel and wants to be with you then at some point she will realize that and hopefully will try to get with you at that time. It is hard to be in love with your best friend though and not beable to be with them. Sometimes their love gets tobe so unbearable that they just can't take it anymore and move on and leaves you behind and not talk to you anymore. You both need to sit down talk to each other honestly and see where you stand. Its better to know exactly what is on your mind now then to hold it in for ten years like me.
2006-06-19 09:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by chinakitten21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gone as far as writing a book on here, and the facts are still the same. She's happy with him, and you're wasting time trying to change her mind. If she's forced by your causing problems with him, she'll despise you and there goes your happiness on her behalf. What is it that makes men or women for that matter go after someone else better half when there are so many, many others to choose from who are available? Try to keep her as a distant friend to lessen your suffering, and go on with your life to find your own soul mate. She's out there!
2006-06-19 03:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have been freind long enough for you to know her enough to love her so that part is probably wrong.
I think if you keep it up you will lose a good friend. You need to move on and let her go before the matter gets worse. If you do she will probably miss your attention also.
2006-06-19 03:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't make an issue of it. She knows how you feel, so if she doesn't like you like that there isn't anything you can do. Let her know you are willing to be just friends and hopefully she can let it go. Good luck.
2006-06-19 03:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you cant take ur words back.......
so do keep your relations as before.
Because 1 side is in ur hand n other in her.... I think both of your behaviour when you meet each other may changed.....because of this situation......try to behave like ur her best friend n not lover :)
This may revert bak ur situation.
Best luck.
2006-06-19 04:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by n/a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a recipe for disaster - good luck!!
2006-06-19 03:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jolly Roger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋