While I have told my dad and stepmom, I haven't told my mom. I've had an engagement band for a while now, and I think that to her, she might already think that its the commitment band, when its not.
I'm not sure how to tell her, since her feelings will be hurt that she wasn't the first to know. ( She WAS the first one I TRIED to tell, but her initial reaction was that I was an embarassment to her, and that my family wouldn't love me, etc ) They're more supportive now- it was the initial shock.
We really don't want to hurt anyone, but we want it to be a private ceremony, . . . I just don't know if I should tell her before- which will hurt her, or after ( almost pretending its totally spontaneous. )
I also don't want to give her ( or anyone) the impression that we aren't taking this seriously, or that the vows are taken lightly- I could use advice from anyone who's gone through anything similiar.
2006-08-16
08:51:54
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