what is the best way to tell your parents you are gay and how do you bring it up?
2006-08-16 08:05:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
LOLZ im a lesbian not all four HA. im just looking for a variety of answers and maybe some stories
2006-08-16 08:15:08 · update #1
If you don't already know what they think, talk about queerness in general. Talk about a movie or a news article or a TV show or something. Their attitude will tell you what they think.
If they're very hostile, wait until you leave the house and aren't dependent on them.
If they're neutral or tolerant, go ahead and tell them. Especially if they're asking things like "Why don't you have a boy/girlfriend yet?"
Make it about *you* and not them. And don't present it if there's already a lot of stress in the house.
2006-08-16 08:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Make a plan. Decide what the outcomes might be and whether this is the best time. Also after you tell them give them some time for it to sink in. Depending on your circumstances, it might be a big shock for even the most supportive of parents. Use the coming out resources at Human Rights Campaign. See link below.
2006-08-16 15:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was really lucky as my mums so open about things like that, it was really easy 4 me to tell her I was Bi. If it wasn't so easy i'd suggest that you just ask them if you can talk, sometime really casual like when you're all watching t.v or something (maybe watching sugar rush or something!??). And just come out with it. I know it sounds really obvious, but I think the more straight with them you are (no pun intended), it doesn't feel so awkward trying to find the right words to explain in 10 minutes what you could say in a few seconds?..
I don't know your parents, and they could be really homophobic or something, I don't know!?? But you're their child, and they'll love you and respect you no matter what. Whether it takes them no time to accept it, or a few days. They'll be fine.
If not, to be fair and without sounding completely disrespectful.. They can't love and respect you as a person at all if they don't accept what you tell them... Don't tell them because you think you have to.. Tell them when you feel ready yourself. Whatever you decide to do I hope it goes ok. x
2006-08-16 15:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Laydee T 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are on your own, just go up to them and tell them. Be supportive and let the chips fall where they will.
If you are not on your own and they are homophobes, wait until you are on your own. Don't tell anyone that might let on to them (siblings, aunts & uncles etc...) Don't tell one parent and not expect the other to find out.
Read up on the subject. The pflag site is good. Read other coming out stories. Maybe visit a gay bookstore or a gay section of one.
2006-08-16 15:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could try doing what I did.
Write them a letter, that way you can really plan and express your feelings an emotions in a way which you really cannot do if you say it. Also they can deal with it for a while, while your not around. This helped me so much and they sat me down afterwards and talked to me about it.
2006-08-16 18:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by djw008 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never really had to tell my parents, my gramma raised me and she just always knew I guess, I still don't think I have ever actually said it out loud to her but she knows, I have been with my partner for 7 years now and my whole family treats her as though we were married. I guess I was just lucky that way... Good luck!!
2006-08-16 21:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just sit them down, tell them you'll always be the same person and spill it. beating around the bush just prolongs it for all of you. i never got the chance to tell my mom, she read a letter i wrote my sister and thats how she found out.
2006-08-16 16:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by robyn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You pick a good time when you feel comfortable enough to tell them, and just tell them you have something important to say and you would appricate it if they listened.
2006-08-16 15:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by ~?~ 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
babe i wish i could help u out but im in the same situation ur in!
2006-08-16 15:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by lovelyasarose2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to decide if you feel obligated to tell your parents. obviously you don'tthink they would be accepting or you would have no problem telling them... your life can be as private as you want it to, or as open as you want... you don't owe anyone an explanation for what you do.... who says you have to tell them...babygirl, it is your life.
2006-08-16 15:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by jen4802051709 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋