How Should I feel about a boyfriend having kids with a previous girlfriend, and how should i look at them?
My boyfriend was with this girl from a few years, he had one little girl with her and then she became pregnant again right after he left contact with her....this beautiful boy was born today...but we arent even 100% sure than it is my boyfriends...he is just going to take the roll of dad from what i understand.his daughters mothers family are crazy...the dont want him to be happy at all every chance they get they start trouble and they wont let us see her 1/2 the time. they try to physically fight with us. It will be so hard on thses babies all i want to do is protect them. My feeling are very mixed but i really care about him and his daughter already and want to spend a long time with him..but question arise...what if i want children in the next 4 years? How could we afford to help with 2 and have one fulltime...and would he stay around of we did....he seems like it. But i dont know how to deal with these people and this situation...friendle help would be appreciated greatly! :)
What do i think of them as...His kids. our kids...my..?..Their her mothers family dont want them to care about me and their father....they are so beautiful and dont deserve this situation i just dont know what to do...i just want to help it in any way i can...but i'm new to parenting in general i have just decided i want some of my own..and now this...i love him and them...what do i do??? need advice badly.....
2006-08-31
19:02:22
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