Am I wrong? I am nineteen years old and five months pregnant with my first baby. My boyfriend of three years want to end our relationship. We still live together and I still love him. He wants to be friends. I can't believe it because we have been together for three years and we have lived together for almost two years now. He is a great guy but I also don't know where we went wrong. We told each other we love each other until last week when he wanted to break it off. It hurts me so much to know that he wants to be with someone else. I cry but eventually I am going to have to get over it.
2006-08-31 18:04:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I feel really bad for you. What a royal Jerk your man is to be looking elsewhere while expecting a baby with you. Even if he was having second thoughts, he could have held off until the baby was born. That shows you his maturity level. One thing that I think you should definatly do is get out of that house for a while. Go stay with family, or a friend for a bit because not being together and being in the same house is going to be terrible stress on you, and that is not good for you and your baby. Maybe with you gone, he will relised what he is about to lose, and some space may do wonders. So please, go and stay with a friend for a while, in a posative supportive envirionment, and just consentrate on your baby. Enjoy the pregancy, enjoy each kick and turn, and focus on that, and try to stay relaxed. Everything happens for a reason, if it doesn't work between you and your boyfriend, at least it happened before the baby, so the baby won't know any different, and is not in a hostile environment, their is always some posative in even the most heart wrenching situations. Good luck to you ! : )
2006-09-01 02:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am terribly sorry to hear of your trouble. I was also nineteen when I got married, five months pregnant. This is going to be very difficult for you becoming a mother so young, but I promise, it will be the most magnificent and wonderful thing that has ever happened to you, even if you don't think so. As for your other half; communicate and express that you are about to be parents and if staying in a relationship is out of the question, you both need to be on the same page for the child's sake, no matter how much hatrid your feel. If he is your age, he has some major growing up to do on top of becoming a father in four months. All I can say is you can try to make it work and I have known how much it hurts to love someone so much and them want to be with someone else. ITs unbearable and you'll need to take it one day at a time and think of your beautiful baby. You need to stay calm for it's sake. IF he still wants out, than at least you know it sooner than later and can get on with your life. You are young and have a lot of life to live, not just for you but for your baby. Just pray and good luck. Remember that god never gives us more than we can handle and have faith.
2006-09-01 01:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by wtrmlnqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve a reason to know why at least, so no you aren't wrong. If this happened up until last week, something sparked within him. Just tell him that he at least owes you that much - a reason and you can each break ties afterwards. You will get over it, you said so yourself. If he's the father of your baby, he needs to be a dad whether you're together or not. Good Luck!
2006-09-01 01:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong. Don't stress yourself though. Let him do his thing, but make sure you guys stay on good terms for the baby's sake. I'm sure he still loves you and your unborn child, so forget the other stuff and focus on the baby and your relationship with him because he is the father of your child. Nothing nor anyone can change that.
2006-09-01 01:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've pretty much answered your own question. Yes, eventually, you will get over it, but for now, you want, and need, to know what happened. Have you asked him? Do you know for a fact that he wants to be with someone else? Or is it that becoming a father is completely freaking him out? Sit him down and ask him objectively (I mean to put your feelings in your pocket) what's going on again, and see what happens. Good luck.
2006-09-01 01:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will he consider counselling? It would be best for the baby, but if he has been with someone else, there is probably no hope for the future.
You are very young and I hope you have parents you can go to for support.
The most important thing is, have faith in yourself. Your abilities and talents will now have a chance to shine as you make a life for yourself and your baby.
2006-09-01 01:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him WHY he wants to break it off. It is important now that you two are bringing a child into this world that you stay together and raise this baby as a family. Go to a marriage therapist if you can get him to agree.
2006-09-01 01:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ask me anything! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend why he wants to break it off. It's really important that you raise this baby as a family. I would try counseling or something to try and save your relationship. If that doesn't work, then find sumone who does wanna be with you.
2006-09-01 01:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look all i can really tell u is that Im 18 w/ a 6month baby girl me and my man had lots of problems but like i always told myself no matter what happens if he lives me like this all pregnant im still going to have this baby... iand believe me some way somehow youll find away to do it ur self and youll get over it..
2006-09-01 01:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by mybaby_des 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just the stress and pressure of the upcoming baby. I would just wait until after things calm down a bit, he may change his mind then.
2006-09-01 01:14:48 · answer #10 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋