Im 36 weeks pregnant and I am so tired of hearing everyones advice. I have one friend inparticular who is always giving me advise or asking me what I am going to do and when I tell her she does nothing but rip my ideas apart. She asked me Who is going to be in the delivery room with me and I told her just me and my partner and she thinks that I need to have women in there with me like my sister or something becuase I need a women who has had experience. I have told her many of times I only want David with me but she will not stop. And she also is asking me all the time if I plan to be put on birth control after the baby and I have told her I dont know ( I most likely will but I havent thought completely about it) and she had many of comments to make about that. I understand that she just trying to help but I dont want to hear it anymore. I honestly feel that her comments are ripping our friendship apart. I want to tell her to stop but I dont really know how without her getting mad, she is more agressive and Im usally the laid back one so I dont want to come off wrong. Another problems I have is that she had an abortion a little less then a year ago, and she really made the choice for everyone else and she is completly turn apart because of it and I dont want her to feel like I dont respect her.
Some other people have given all the advise too. I understand that people want to share there stories but Im really tired of it. Im only 21 so Im pretty young I guess but I have tired very hard to do everything right. I have went to the lamaza class, the newborn class, the brestfeeding class, and a few others. I also have ready every magazine and book that I could get my hands on. I have done research on birth and all the options that I have and I dont understand why everyone thinks that I need all this extra advise.....if only they would give me advice on getting people to stop giving me advise. I am usally the type that just sits back and let people say or do what they want but if I dont let them know how annoying the advise is getting I am going to go off on someone and I dont want to do that. The only time that I finally said something to someone (actually it was my friend I was talking about above) I was told that pregnant women are so mean, and the actually made me want to cry (not really sure why I guess all the emotions that come along with being pregnant) So how can I tell everyone no more advise???
2006-07-14
16:38:31
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