My boyfriend wanted to try anal sex and although I don't do it because to me it's painful, and I have always forbidden it to my former partners, at first I said no, and then I agreed. All I asked him was "please be very very gentle". Thing is he acted all impatient and was the contrary to gentle, which caused me physical pain. When he asked if it hurt, and I honestly answered yes, he stopped though. I still feel he disrespected me in some way, because I DID tell him no (I also told him why), and then I ASKED him to be gentle, and he wasn't, and he never even asked if I was okay afterwards. It bled, but I never uttered a word.
I'm thinking (for later in life) if we end up having a family, HOW do you trust a person with something, if you asked them not to do it because it causes you pain, but they go ahead and do it. It's been three days since the incident, and I didn't have the chance to talk to him yet..
How do I tell him that i need him to respect my wishes, without offending him?
2007-12-24
18:52:56
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