Ok, so I have this ex-boyfriend and the two of us are still in love with eachother. We can't be together because we live too far apart and neither of us can handle the long distance thing. But, we still talk a lot and get together to hang out (sometimes have sex, but not always). We have spoken a lot about our past and future relationship and we both totally agree that we can't be bf/gf and things are way better the way they are right now. The thing is, my friends and family all hate his guts because he text dumped me and hurt me pretty bad and they get extremely pissed off at me when I go to see him or have him come see me. They tell me that I am wasting my time with trailer trash. I was supposed to go see him on the 20th and everybody ganged up and had an "intervention" about it and kept me from going. I think it's crazy to try to control who I see and what I do. How do I get them to stop worrying and let me make my own decisions?
2007-12-24 19:23:23 · 3 answers · asked by slipknots love slave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you share information about your life with people that love you, they are going to be concerned. Quit telling everyone your business, and they can't get involved. I have a feeling, however, that they are probably right about the situation, and that you will eventually be hurt if you continue the relationship as is.
2007-12-24 19:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over the age of 18, then they have no right telling you who you can and cannot see. Although they may be concerned and are only looking out for your best interests, it doesn't give them the right to hold an "intervention", as if you're some sort of drug addict. You're the one who ultimately has to live with the decisions you make, not your parents, or your siblings or your friends. If you're not 18, they do have some say in what you do, however, what they did was way out of line. I would make it clear to everyone that you understand they are only concerned for your well being, but they can't tell you who to have feelings for or to stop having feelings for someone. I have been in a similar situation and after I said something along those lines, everyone backed off, because I started becoming distant from them and started telling them less and less about my personal life. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-12-24 19:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell them,make clear to all that it's your life and decision.
2007-12-24 19:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by noona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋