Singles & Dating - 15 May 2007

I fell for someone out of pity and they abused me in every way they could. I didn't want to see the abuse so I lived in denial.He was treated badly by his mother and was bullied at school and also his employers . This man was so controlling it seemed it must have come from being bullied.So here is the profile of a TARGETTED VICTIM of a Psychopath (and also the dependant personality that allowed his abuse to go on for decades).
I discovered he will abuse me if I cringe or if I stand up to him.I now realise that he will get less pleasure from me if I stand up to him. I have sought advice from the following links which deal with ABUSE either emotional (which is worse) sexual or physical. They are helping me to deal with living with an abuser to stay safe. They run advice courses.
http://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/site.htm
http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPAhttp://groups.msn.com/NarcissismSupportGroupMoralandSpiritualStruggle/waystohealing.msnw See psychopath msn ..

2007-05-15 23:59:13 · 8 answers · asked by dragon 2

2007-05-15 23:59:09 · 4 answers · asked by psr 1

What is your view on skin colour when it comes to sex? Is there a difference between being white or black in relation to sexual performance?

2007-05-15 23:57:17 · 31 answers · asked by Kiss 1

I've been talking to a girl for almost a year but its a long distance relationship well not relationship cuz we're not dating but we both fell for each other seriously and she tells me how she wants to marry me in the future and wants to have children. But things started happening when we was on the phone talking and i hurt her really bad when i found out she was crushing on some guy and she told me she liked me way more than him, next thing u know she starts dating him and then she told me it was because of me. After we put our differences to the side but she still tells me she want to have a future with me even though she's dating this guy and it seems like their close now.

She has a jealousy problem with me because i see random girls and sometimes she gets so jealous that she posts her bf pics on her myspace so that i can see but then after she takes it down when i tell her too and we start talking again, i always ask her to tell me how she feels about me and she switches the topic

2007-05-15 23:52:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend message his bestfriend (whose a girl) like when he messages me, you know stuffs like you'll always be in my life, and I can't live without you. Basically romantic stuff that I guess can pass off as a bestfriend message? Is it appropriate? Should I talk to him about it? Please help. I'm really affected by it, but really need to know if I'm just you know... shouldn't be feeling this way?

2007-05-15 23:48:19 · 9 answers · asked by IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo 2

Ok here is my deal I have been with my b/f now 8 years and we thought about marrige, never happened.... anyways I have found myself to have fallen out of love with him and his mental abuse is not helping, I mean heck, calling me fat and dumb and sex is not there. And I am tired of feeling like its all my fault and just want to run away anfd work on myself to get my life and happiness back. I do know that I love him but no longer "in love" with him and I wont lie to say I have not, I have forced myself to try to find the love again. I dont ewant to hu8rt him, even though I klnow I will, I thought about sticking it out until our lease is up in september and then move in with my friend and then get up the nerve to tell him since we will not be living together anymore. I am such a wuss and can't help but be scared, I mean heck that was 8 yrs of my life!!! I thought he was the one even though "the one" was in front of me the whole time!!

2007-05-15 23:31:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so here it is, two of my friends got together a little while ago, due to get married in 18 months, she went on holiday for a few weeks she is still on hol. Her bf and i are friends (have been since we where babies) and we have been going around with each other NOT only us, about 5 friends at all times. he started to act really strange a bout a week ago, rubing my back, picking me up, following me. I thought it was just because he was missing his gf, well last night he told me that he broke it of a week ago. He now has just txt and asked if i fancy going out for dinner tonight i have said i am busy, and that is isn't the best idea anyway but what do I do? SORRY IT IS SO LONG.

2007-05-15 23:27:14 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

please help me...............am fat what should l take to slim down

2007-05-15 23:19:46 · 9 answers · asked by firstdiamond88 2

2007-05-15 23:13:03 · 2 answers · asked by medy s 1

Why cant the person you really want, want you? Ok I guess sometimes it happens, but I am still waiting for it to happen for me, what if it never does? As it doesnt with everyone.

He basically said oneday we can think about getting back together ie taking things slowly as we hadnt seen eachother in about 6 months, ( I didnt ask for him to do this, it was his idea). Then I wasnt sure because of the past so the next day, his saying he doesnt want this? Why, it dont make sense?
It really hurts because I was ready to move on, an just because he gave me hope again I didnt and now I am back to where I was.
Why would someone just change there mind like that? His a grown man too, an usually knows his mind.
How can you change your mind in 24 hour's, he knew this would hurt me too.

2007-05-15 23:09:03 · 11 answers · asked by Bonnie B 4

recently, i realised that my gf whom i love soo much tells me lies, plss advice me on what to do.

2007-05-15 23:07:58 · 5 answers · asked by Daniel I 1

I am looking for a woman that likes chocolate and is between the ages of 18 and 80.

Do you like chocolate?

Also, I like to fingerpaint. THE END

P.S. You must also have five fingers on each hand. I have high standards and I don't want the turkeys we draw with our hands to look funny.

2007-05-15 23:02:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

hay im 15 and i got dumpped by my gf she said it was because it was 1 of my mates because he kissed her i saw and i hit him and another guy thats playing weard games but i was talking 2 1 of her mates and she said she just never liked me........what the hell am i ment 2 do now

2007-05-15 22:47:42 · 20 answers · asked by 1 min from heaven 1

not bars, not clubs, and defiantly not the ice cream shop(I was told that’s where everybody goes when they get high). I don't see them in the woods, probably not skydiving or hang gliding, and not on the internet.

2007-05-15 22:47:32 · 17 answers · asked by earthntrees 2

Girls are nice, girls are pretty, girls are sexy. However, girls easily insult their lovers because they think that that is their rights. also girl in quarell may say anything.
from girls I may receive sex and emotions and insults.
Alone I can have my own peace and diginity.
what do you think: is sex so good to sacrifice my dignity and quiet life? My opinion is that I will lost more if I have sex and insults and quarells and gain more if I have my peace and dignity even being alone and without sex.

2007-05-15 22:42:28 · 12 answers · asked by Suchness 5

It has nothing to do with her. She is great. I love her with all of my heart. I just don't like sex. I don't see the point in getting naked and sticking your **** in someone. It was cool for the first few times I had sex, but it's just not my thing.

2007-05-15 22:38:29 · 18 answers · asked by Josh 1

they are always interested in me in e 2nd date but after the 3rd date, they lost interest and move on to new girls...and theres no sex between us as yet...

2007-05-15 22:36:57 · 11 answers · asked by gurmet 1

which is like obedient and say yes sir.. so as to show respect for the boyfriend. .. unless u want to humiliate your boyfriend.

2007-05-15 22:29:33 · 13 answers · asked by Tan Boon Hwee k 2

2007-05-15 22:27:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-15 22:26:54 · 8 answers · asked by its_aquarious123 1

i have been with this guy for 8 months now but i really dont love him but hes so great in bed. personality wise he is boring and dumb! what should i do?

2007-05-15 22:21:09 · 24 answers · asked by paris 1

I was 18 and he was 21 at the time..
We were kissing and we got very hot.. then we took off our clothes, and i noticed that he got very nervous, and when i looked down there on him, there was no more action.. :( and i tried to give him a massage to make him relax! and he got excited again! and then we made love, but he didn't know how to anything.. i had to do all the job, and we finished too quick (i mean him)... lasted about 5 minutes.
and then afterwards i asked him, if he was a virgin, and he said: off course not! and then i asked him when he did his 1st time, and he said when he was 17.

Some months later, i asked him again when he did his 1st time, and he said when he was 19 years old.. so she lied to me!!
sometimes i think that his 1st time was with me, but he is too embarrased to tell me.. most men lie about it.
was his 1st time with me?

2007-05-15 22:19:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

when he found out i am married he doesnt want to talk to me any more. last night we have known each other and he was so interested about me but tonight i told him that i still like him but he ignored me.

2007-05-15 21:56:31 · 7 answers · asked by lolo 1

I seem to find a lot of questions on here about GUYS prepared to date a girl who has children from a previous relationship, but what about the other way around (whether the guy is a full-time dad with kids at home - which is rare, or not)? Are girls not interested in guys who have kids? What would you think about a guy who has kids from a previous relationship... especially if he DOES pay child support and spends time with the kids every second weekend? I have recently become aware that many girls tend to see a guy very differently if he has kids, however MANY guys I know would have no problem dating a girl who has kids. hhhmmm interesting. What do you think?

2007-05-15 20:44:20 · 22 answers · asked by Dave F 6

i like one man. i'm 19. he's 40.
what can i do to have attention of an older man?
and do men of that age find it a problem if the girl's still a virgin?

2007-05-15 20:43:20 · 4 answers · asked by Rose M 1

2007-05-15 20:38:02 · 29 answers · asked by russel19ru 1

2007-05-15 20:19:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got to know a guy through on-line friendship circle to learn italian 3months ago.
He's a 27 y/o italian student living in Sydney. We've been chatting since the end of March. Recently we talked almost all night over webcam, like 9hrs for several times. He texts to me on my cell, and even sends me lovely messages to work as well almost everyday.
We've decided to meet in Sydney because I have a friend living there, and he and I've decided to travle together in other cities. We have purchased domestic tickets together and we have been making plans. BUT I'm worried now. I haven't heard from him for 2days. I'm worried if he met someone. When I talked with him last time, he looked really tired because of the weekend parties and also assignment. He did tell me he has to submit one assignment for tomorrow, and also another one on Monday. He's so loving, and even corrects my Italian e-mails so patiently.

2007-05-15 20:18:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i broke up wid my x bf a few days back cuz he cheated on me with his x gf.
He accused me of cheatin on him n treated me real bad...
wht do i do 2 get over all this? i think i still miss him...how can i 4get him??

2007-05-15 19:50:00 · 12 answers · asked by ♥¢0űR†ÑeY♥ 2

2007-05-15 19:49:30 · 5 answers · asked by onebrainkid 1