Ok so here it is, two of my friends got together a little while ago, due to get married in 18 months, she went on holiday for a few weeks she is still on hol. Her bf and i are friends (have been since we where babies) and we have been going around with each other NOT only us, about 5 friends at all times. he started to act really strange a bout a week ago, rubing my back, picking me up, following me. I thought it was just because he was missing his gf, well last night he told me that he broke it of a week ago. He now has just txt and asked if i fancy going out for dinner tonight i have said i am busy, and that is isn't the best idea anyway but what do I do? SORRY IT IS SO LONG.
2007-05-15 23:27:14 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He really has broken up his gf, her sister lives near us and she said she is heart broken. I DON'T like him no way would i ever like him and when he made moves i stoped him but it just keeps coming he said that he will come see me tonight. He is friends with my brothers and they invite him around all the time. I have said no and i am going to my sisters house now.
2007-05-15 23:36:36 · update #1
I would be wary of any guy who would break off a marriage to a girl and then turns around less than a week later trying to get with someone like they don't even care. It's even worse that it's her best friend, and it sounds like he didn't even tell his fiance to her face.
2007-05-15 23:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by broberts277 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is from a man's point of view, it seems to me. He may have rushed into proposing to his girlfriend, and obviously is having second thoughts. But at the same time he has and always had strong feelings for you and could not go through with marrying the other girl. If this is true, he has done the right thing in calling off the marriage and now he needs the courage to tell you how he really feels about you! Ask yourself the same question, what are your feelings for him? Text him back, except the meal invitation sit down together, talk things over. You never know, you might be meant for each other without realising it. Good luck to you both PS remember opportunities like this don't happen every day
2007-05-15 23:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by rob h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you feel uncomfortable with the way he's been acting around you and would like him to stop (which he should receive well and understand if you've been friends for so long) and explain, clearly, that you and he are friends and will always be friends, but nothing more.
If he's a true friend he'll take your feelings into account.
It's also best to speak to his ex and explain what happened and what you said. She will find out at some point, best to hear it from you as soon as possible. Maybe even speak to her on holiday? Depends how close the two of you are I guess.
Good luck!
2007-05-15 23:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back away from the boy, hes bad news. Does his fiancee know he broke it off a week ago? I think perhaps he is just looking to score a little excitment and action. You did the right thing by turning down the date, you need to talk to your friend and ask her if she knows whats going on, but be prepared, she may not be happy with your questions. Be her friend and let her know that her fiancee is trying to play around, these days thats a risky proposition and he could give her a lot more than a new last name.
2007-05-15 23:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont go anywhere near this guy until you have spoken to his ex who is also your mate, it would be so complicated it wouldnt be worth it, you will end up stuck in an arguement between him and his ex let them sort out their relationship issues and clear the air then in a few months after the dust settles and there is no risk of fireworks proceed with caution if you want to be with him. Relationships are hard enough without getting involved with someone who is on the rebound from what seemed to be a serious relationship
2007-05-15 23:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok go to your sisters tonight and every night if he keeps coming around sounds to me that his girlfriend had a very luckey escape all the divorces in the country hes not ready to settle down just yet he still wants a bit of fun and he did do the right thing in the end by breaking up with her but you stay clear because you ll be the one blamed good luck my friend
2007-05-16 01:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of this is your fault but you've been put in an awkward situation here. I think you're doing the right thing. It's a shame cos you've been friends for so long. Try telling him that you value his friendship and that you want to stay friends but for you to be friends he has to stop all this carry on. If he can't accept that then it's him who's ruined your friendship,not you.
2007-05-15 23:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't whatever you do DON'T feel guilty for his and his fiance's relatonship not working.
If you don't want a relationship with him tell him straight, if you would consider it in the future tell him, but my goodness it's really close to the break up to go out with him, so I wouldn't. He's probably on the re-bound so stay away.
Ask his ex what happened to get a bit more back ground. But make sure this guy knows where he stands with you.
even if you really wanna have him as your boyfriend it's too early wait and let the whole break up thing to calm down.
2007-05-15 23:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, he may just want a shoulder to cry on and wants a good chat with a good friend - in which case you should go and support him. However, if he wants more, you've got to decide if you want the same - especially as you are friends with him and his now ex... If I were you I would be completely honest with her too - it would be worse if she heard you'd been out for a meal with him from someone else - whatever happened or may happen.
2007-05-15 23:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule # 1 Never date a friends ex boyfriend/fiancee
2007-05-15 23:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Just Another Cali Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋