Other - Family & Relationships - 13 February 2007

My mom was married to a man who beat her in front of my little brother from age 0-2 (she left him after that) There was also a lot of verbal and emotional abuse. I was already 8 years old by that time, and had a loving upbringing by my mom and grandparents. But my poor little brother! They thought he had extreme colic for 15 months until they finally did some other tests and determined that he was basically traumatized from such a violent environment.

He is now 13, and has struggled his whole life with anger issues and such. Our step father is wonderful, and he and my mom have tried so hard to give him a calm loving environment. Alas, my brother still has some issues, even though he cant even remember the abuse conciously. I'm wondering if there is anyone out there who grew up in an abusive home, especially during infantcy, who managed to grow into a well-adjusted and loving adult, perhaps even a loving parent. I would appreciate any advice & personal experiences. Thanks

2007-02-13 17:25:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love Her And I Dont Know Whether She Love's Me Or Not

2007-02-13 16:58:26 · 5 answers · asked by Mohsin P 1

2007-02-13 16:56:30 · 13 answers · asked by VRM Baby 1

My ex and I have been trying to maintain a civil relationship for the sake of our son but it seems the more we try the more we fight. We have very different views on how our son should be raised and he brings his new girlfriend into the situation so on top of him I have her to deal with too. What do I do?

2007-02-13 16:48:35 · 6 answers · asked by kaz 2

Tell me for the Valantine Pure Love if u feel than someone somewhere made for you with the Soul of Pure Love

2007-02-13 16:43:19 · 3 answers · asked by man_of_mask 1

2007-02-13 16:30:56 · 5 answers · asked by Coral 1

I dont know what to do with myself,I feel like a fish out of water. And I get sad when I see lovers exchanging affection,holding hands,hugging,kissing, and most espeacially slow dancing.I am alone 9 months now and my heart is heavy,and I feel lost. With a mixture of anger and sadness I dont know what to do. My husband was a good provider,but his porn addiction meant more to him then me.Geesh, it feels good to whine to strangers. Any suggestions as to where I meet a new friend? I wish I had a girlfriend I could laugh and cry with, go out dancing and karaokeing with, sit and talk about life with. I wish I had a man I could trust and trust loved me back. But I know wishing cant make it so. Ok got that out of my system, I feel a bit better.

2007-02-13 16:12:32 · 2 answers · asked by sandra b 5

why cant i get over him, he doesnt care if were together or not, and i keep running back to him becuase i cant let go. and i dont know why, and id ont know what to do?

2007-02-13 16:10:02 · 14 answers · asked by tennischic1587 1

2007-02-13 15:47:36 · 8 answers · asked by angie_anal 1

My boyfriend and I are getting ready to have our second child in April. I moved down to Arizona in September with my father and my boyfriend is back in Chicago. We are getting redy to get a apartment together but the thing is that he has a child by another woman. I want us to get a apartment in Arizona because the weather is better and they have a lot of jobs down here. Only, he doesn't want to move down here because he doesn't want to leave his other child behind, so he wants us to get a apartment back in Chicago. I know that by us being down here it would be a better life for our kids. Am I being selfish or is he?

2007-02-13 15:27:40 · 10 answers · asked by chloerochelle102887 1

can the smaller man tell that the bigger man has been in there?

2007-02-13 15:26:47 · 11 answers · asked by just wondering 1

Having sex with my partner is like pulling teeth. He begs for it all the time and when I give it to him, it only last 5minutes. When it is over he is on cloud nine. Me on the othe hand is MAD AS HELL!! I wish he would not even ask.

2007-02-13 15:25:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my ex were goin out and we were really serious. We wanted and tried to have a child together. She moved but we were still together till i just couldnt do the lond distance thing and we broke it off. We still talked everyday every night and told told one another we loved each other every night. But then i liked this other chick and started goin with her. My ex cried and talked suicide but she got over it and we still talked everyday and every night even tho i had a gf. Me and that girl broke up and still we saw each other occasionally and talked to each other all the time. Then on valetines day i told her i had a gf and she just hung up and called every 2 weeks to tell me im a hypocrite and yell at me. Some stuff happened and me here started talkin again everyday the next months after and i was mean to her and accusing her of things and then i got another gf and she then told me she had feelings for her ex and they started going out. Did i bring this upon myself.

2007-02-13 15:18:02 · 9 answers · asked by xblade 1

Its always preached that if you love someone, then you love them unconditionally. Now my big dilema is: If he's married and has chilldren, how then can I not continue loving him despite his situation or does condition constitute to only when no other 'parties' (family) are involved, in which case, I would understand that, he'd have to desert what he has, ie his family for me to love him.(making it conditional)

With all due respect, one should not be deemed as a home breaker, as they did not take any vows that the subject of their desire may have taken prio to getting together. Who should be held responsible in this sort of liason? at the end of the day, there is always some consoling 'saying' to justify each parties position.

Who is right or wrong?

And who should the offended partner blame in this kind of situation?

Please be honest as a lot of us tend to be very defensive.

2007-02-13 14:57:29 · 19 answers · asked by lulu 3

I know i have posted this once a long time ago and a few times today and i didn't get many responses but i felt i'd post it again to see what you all though....do you find this dumb?

As a sophomore in college i remember this game we used to play in gym class with this giant rainbow colored sheet. We'd all life it up and run under it and stuff. I'm sure other's of you remember this activity...anyway apparently....they now banned this activity from elementary school gym classes because it's to "violent" my friend wants to become a physical education teacher so this is how i found this out..I'm surprised. I also heard dodge ball was banned from some schools as well as tug of war and tag!! Does anyone else think this is in any way STUPID? what are they going to ban next....breathing!

2007-02-13 14:42:45 · 9 answers · asked by Mike T 2

2007-02-13 14:42:08 · 10 answers · asked by I V X 5

My husband and I are having problems because if it isnt 1 of them it is another and we have no time to be alone. Also we seperated earlier this week so he could have time out as he is close to breaking and I cant help but feel he is financially providing to much for these grown children and things wont improve untill we let them fend for themselves. Do you think we should move far away? I am considering Cairns, Australia.

2007-02-13 14:30:57 · 8 answers · asked by karena k 4

OMG i don't have school tomorrow!!!!!!!! Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and i don't get to see my boyfriend!!!! I really was hoping we would have school tomorrow so i could see him but no b/c of the stupid weather!!!! It isn't fair!!!! I wish that it didn't have to snow!!!!

2007-02-13 14:24:22 · 11 answers · asked by iloveyou.<3. 3

2007-02-13 14:21:57 · 1 answers · asked by Dal3y 1

Im sorry but i just dont get it. lol

2007-02-13 14:21:45 · 18 answers · asked by Wee-Wah 3

My girlfriend hates my best friend. She asked me to spend a day with her but I couldnt because I had plans with my mom so I told her to postpone the date. That day I went with my mom to watch a movie and we saw my best friend there so my mom invited him along. Someone else saw the three of us and told my girlfriend, now shes's all mad at me and wont answer my texts or anything I said I was sorry and to please forgive me I sent her gifts and everything, she's being all stupid about it I dont know how else to be the bigger person. Does anyone know what else I should try?

2007-02-13 14:13:50 · 12 answers · asked by Virginnniiiaa 3

I hurt my man really bad. I lied to him a lot. I came on to him friends in from of him when i was drunk. I tryed sudctioning his friends in front of him. I didn't realize what i was doing in front of him. ? I never did that before when i was drinking. I went to a classmate's house after he told me not to go because i didn't know him at all i just had met him a few days before. The guy had hurted me really bad that i was crying after he had really rough sex with me that i couldn't even move off the bed. I kepted on telling the guy to stop that he was hurting me i was screaming really lound trying to push him out of me but i couldn't get him out of me i was telling him no it hurts a lot stop he would listen to me. He kepted on going like i didn't say anything to him. He kepted on going deeper. It felt like he raped me his friend saw the all thing happened. He wanted his friend to join in with him like i wanted a 3 some. He was saying to his friend that i liked being told want to do.

2007-02-13 14:11:56 · 9 answers · asked by sexycutenicelatinaepettiewoman 1

2007-02-13 14:10:38 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have never had a good V-Day. I've never gotten anything ever from a boyfriend on that day. I thought I would get something this year but my B/F is in camp and I won't be with him.

So tell me something that will lift my spirits.....Tell me what V-Day is all about!

O0O0O...I lied, I went to visit my Mother this past weekend and she bought me a car. But I don't think it was a valentines present.

2007-02-13 14:01:28 · 4 answers · asked by Whos your mama? 3

oK...So HERE iS THE DEAL iM 14 AND My BoyFRiEND iS 16!! i Go To My DADS HoUSE EVERy WEEKEND EXEPT 1 AND My BoyFRiEND oNLy CoMES DoWN To SAN DiEGo EVERy oTHER WEEKEND AND THoES 2 WEEKENDS EVERy MoNTH i JUST HAPPEN To BE AT My DADS!!! AND My BoYFRiEND LiVES By My MoM... i LoVE My DAD BUT WHAT Do i Do CAUSE i WANT To SPEND LESS TiME WiTH My DAD oN THE WEEKENDS AND My MoM SAiD SHE DoESNT WANT ME To SEE HiM DURRiNG THE WEEK AND AT THiS RATE iF i KEEP SEEiNG My DAD i WiLL NEVER GET To SEE My BoYFRiEND AGAiN...AND i CANT JUST BE LIKE ooo yA DAD i DoNT WANT To SEE yoU ANyMoRE!! i ALREADy ToLD HiM THAT i WoULD LiKE To SPEND EVERy oTHER WEEKEND WiTH HiM THE WEEKENDS THAT My oyFRiEND iS NoT HERE CAUSE i REALLy WANT To SEE HiM So DoES ANyoNE THiNK THEy CAN HELP ME...SooN PLEASE

2007-02-13 13:47:52 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-13 13:47:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

will get hurt trying to run it. You see I break the horses to ride. What should I do? Should I become a cop instead of a coast guard? My term if I sign up for the coast guard is 4 years ,and the age limit is 27 years old. I am 21yrs. old and currently enrolled in college for a social work major. I finish soon ,and I am afraid that I will get bored with the major. What should I do?

2007-02-13 13:38:36 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

The problem is I feel so very alone. My mother is the only person I can ask for help, but she is only emotional supportive when everything in her life is just right. Any financial assistance is always considered a loan(I put myself through college-and always paid her back when help was needed)Pretty much she is unreliable(she left my siblings and I from age 2-16). I have no friends to lean on, and I don't know if I can handle all the stress of transferring my life into single-motherhood. I've been stay-home-mom since he was born(he's 14 months now), and although I have a plan and have taken some action, I'm scared to death, I am emotionally drained from the situation(the abuse towards my son was caught on tape-immediate action has been taken) and I truely don't have anyone I can trust, but my own physical and spiritual strength. Has anyone else been through tough situations alone and how did you cope?

2007-02-13 13:31:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you've read my previous questions ... you probably know a little about me ... I've realized that everytime I fall for girl ... its always because of the way she looks .... and then later i start knowing who she is and then either i like her if she's nice or i don't (i'm looking for an indian girl and most indian girls where i live are spoilt and have lost their culture .. i live in USA) .... but i still feel guilty because regardless of whether she turns out nice or not ... the fact is that the FIRST reason why i liked her was because of the way she looked .... i know that everyone wants the person they love to be the most beautiful thing in the world ... but i still feel guilty because usually, if i have a day dream ... the girl in there usually resembles some pretty girl ... and THAT pretty girl that it resembles usually isn't even nice!!! ... i mean not all the times but still .. i have a hard time understanding life and feel guilty ... how can i get more mature and ignore looks?

2007-02-13 13:31:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

my boyfriend and i were fooling around the other night . he started touching me and i didn as well. everything felt good, until he went inside me with his finger ( just one) and it made me jump. it was not only uncomfortable but in a way kinda painful. is this normal? ( btw im a virgin and never used tampons before). does this mean that im really tight and that when i have sex it will hurt really badly?
im 18 and hes 22.
thanks

2007-02-13 13:23:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous