My boyfriend and I are getting ready to have our second child in April. I moved down to Arizona in September with my father and my boyfriend is back in Chicago. We are getting redy to get a apartment together but the thing is that he has a child by another woman. I want us to get a apartment in Arizona because the weather is better and they have a lot of jobs down here. Only, he doesn't want to move down here because he doesn't want to leave his other child behind, so he wants us to get a apartment back in Chicago. I know that by us being down here it would be a better life for our kids. Am I being selfish or is he?
2007-02-13 15:27:40 · 10 answers · asked by chloerochelle102887 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wll, it's a catch 22. I totally understand where he is coming from. He loves his other child and he loves you with his newborn. For a guy to move from his child is very tough. He must be heart broken. I understand that he doesn't want to move but I also understand your need. It's not selfish on your part but it's a tough decision on both of you. Good luck!
2007-02-13 15:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both being selfish! For God's sake and the sake of your children, get married before you screw up the lives of these precious children by moving them around in an atmosphere of uncertainty and instability. Look, it only costs a few dollars to legitimize your relationship and make you an honest woman. You'll feel better about yourself, your boyfriend will be more inclined to stick with and support the family, and certainly the grandparents of your children will respect and feel more relieved about the treatment of their grandchildren. Do this at the courthouse before you move, then go on with your lives and stop being so selfish.
2007-02-13 15:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk. but really,what makes you think your kids would not have a good life in chicago? many people born and raised there are sucessful and socialy stable.and than you have to think of the child he would leave to better your own chids life.how would you feel if it was turned around and he was moving to be with another kid and never seeing yours. kids come first and kids need parents.compramise the weather to make his other childs life fuller. traveling back and forth would be expensive and not good for anyone. think about it before making him choose which child is more important
2007-02-13 16:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by computerdummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to take him away from his other child? That seems a little selfish to me.
Why did you move away from him in the first place? those are the questions you need to ask yourself.
2007-02-13 16:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by dr_mctwitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that both of you need to really sit down and talk about what
is best for everyone concered. there are 3 children that are
in this. so time to get your act together for the sake of the children.
2007-02-13 15:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is mabe cause he could just call over and say hello and once you have earned the money 2 travel he could go visit the other child mabe what he's doing is.......... CHEETING
2007-02-13 15:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by kiya o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Dr. Phil.
2007-02-13 15:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Legsology07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you are selfish..He's thinking about his kid and ur thinking about the future of your kids.
2007-02-13 15:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by CasualtyKid45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think either of you are being selfish, i just think you need to talk more.
2007-02-13 15:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk ,and compromise.
2007-02-13 16:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by T S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋