Having sex with my partner is like pulling teeth. He begs for it all the time and when I give it to him, it only last 5minutes. When it is over he is on cloud nine. Me on the othe hand is MAD AS HELL!! I wish he would not even ask.
2007-02-13 15:25:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
6 billion people in this world. There's someone else who can give you better sex.
2007-02-13 15:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i question why it is that you don't want to have sex. sex is a huge, maybe the biggest part of a relationship. people need the intimate touch of another person, especially someone that loves them. imagine how your partner feels when he has to beg. do you have to beg him to do anything? (housework, helping more with the kids, going shopping with you, etc.) if so, how does that make you feel? i actually get upset when i hear women talk about with holding sex from a man, for whatever reasons. why would you want to withhold - the pleasure from sex is meant for both of the people involved. maybe it only last for five minutes b/c he had to beg for so long that he is afraid that you are going to change your mind and roll over and go to sleep. you said that you wished "he would not even ask", but if he didn't i am sure that would make you "mad as hell" also!!! your partner is normal to want sex. you seriously might want to take a look at why it is that you don't want to have sex with him. is it only with him or have you never enjoyed sex? bad past experience or is it that old thought that women shouldn't enjoy, want, and desire sex? you need to really look into this, not for your partner, but for yourself.
2007-02-13 15:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We clearly understand form the question, the quality of your personality. We means I am writing here sitting beside my wife. We know that as per the details given in good book named "Kamsutra" written by Mr. Vatsyayan, there are mainly four type of women. When royal qualities are better, choice towards sex is less. As per choice and liking of sex is 20 percent, 40 percent, 60 percent and 80 percent.
The Best quality woman has the lesser choice and liking of sex. Love is another matter, love and sex are very different. Now a days such women are rare. So you are receiving most of routine answers - some says you wish to ride over husband - some says sex is utmost important in relationship, but nobody looks to the heart of your question. Me and my wife very well know that you are a lady of very high quality and you understand sex should not be given so much of importance in life. It is a matter of just four minutes once a week. Man should understand real meaning of LOVE. There are so many more important matter and things.
2007-02-14 02:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, now I'm confused! do you want to have sex? Looks like you dont! You should be happy that he comes in 5 minutes! Frigid ones like you are the cause of quick shooting!
Learn to have sex and then teach him to come slow. This way you can both be on cloud nine!
2007-02-14 04:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Madam, sex is not important to a relationship but the same is important to a marriage relationship. Men are like boiling milk, fast. Ladies are like making malai, slowly. Men are not at fault. All this is natural and due to software made by God. Accept universal truth. Men are Rajdhani Express.
2007-02-13 21:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex or physical touch is only one of the five love languages that men and women desire. The other four are just as important and, if any one is missing in the relationship, the relationship (marriage especially) suffers. Gary Chapman in his "The Five Love Languages" describes them in his book that is available at the library and helpful for all couples, especially men.
2007-02-13 16:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't important in a relationship. Explain to him that you aren't fully succeeding what you want when you get intimate and try other ways, other than sex to get the same enjoyment. Be honest. Honestly, trust, and conversation is th most important things.
2007-02-13 15:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by jenimiper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi , You need to be upfront with him . Tell him that you want to be "fulfilled " Before him. Here is the trick ,tell him how to do it and be patient. Dont ever let a Man think you are frustrated with him during sex. I am a man and that is how I feel about it.This will probably mean cycles of starting and stopping. Alternating stimulation.(On his part)
2007-02-13 15:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Darren B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not the most important then in a relationship by no means
but if you feel this way then talk to him and let him know how you
feel. it should be about both of you enjoying it not just the one
person. communication is the key to a lasting relationship.
2007-02-13 15:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a receiver and not a giver. He doesn't understand a woman, they have needs too. It goes both ways. I think he needs to see a counsellor. It shouldn't be sex, it should be love making. I think you need a guy that can make you happy, it's time to move on. If he begs next time, ask him to satisfy you first (3-5 times), then you can satisfy him.
2007-02-13 15:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No offense intended on this one--but he seems to be in it for himself-if it only lasts that long. As a gal, I know I definitely prefer the guy taking care of satisfying me first, then he will get even more satisfaction on his part. Please, seriously, make a time for the two of you to talk privately--about this matter. Let him know how you feel. No more, wham, bam, thank you maam stuff for you. Take care.
2007-02-13 15:30:31 · answer #11 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋