My ex and I have been trying to maintain a civil relationship for the sake of our son but it seems the more we try the more we fight. We have very different views on how our son should be raised and he brings his new girlfriend into the situation so on top of him I have her to deal with too. What do I do?
2007-02-13 16:48:35 · 6 answers · asked by kaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just keep sight of your son above all else and try your hardest to politely and respectfully deal with your ex and that new gf of his. It's probably much easier said than done.
The more you guys fight, the worse each of your relationships with your son will become.
2007-02-13 16:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by D-Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, if you didn't have a son I would say, "Forget your ex and move on." But for the sake of your son I think that you and your ex need to get together and compromise. Explain to him that things need to be handled maturely and you would appreciate it if he didn't bring his girlfriend into it because it is you alls child, not hers. Both of you make have to give and take a little when it comes to the way your son should be raised but just remember that you are doing whats best for your child and his future.
2007-02-13 17:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by yeah_im_cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have sole custody or do you share custody? If you have sole custody, you can make the major decisions like schools, medical decisions, etc. without input from your ex. On minor issues, such as what your child eats for breakfast or what time he goes to bed when he is visiting your ex, you might have to accept that you have different parenting styles -- it shouldn't come as a big surprise since your relationship didn't work.
2007-02-13 17:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by orderly logic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try treating him like your X, rather than your mate. You're divorced remember? There's no longer reason to fight with him...or for that matter to listen to his opinion at all. Why aggravate yourself??? Above all, do NOT allow him to provoke you. Can you imagine what your fights are doing to your son???
Furthermore, you do NOT need to deal with her either.
2007-02-13 17:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be civil to him for the sake of your son. he and
you will have to deal with each other for 18 years, so just do
what is right for you son. . just keep it simple when he around
you.
2007-02-13 17:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's best if you move on and not dwell on someone like him anymore. it seems as if he's already move on. you should too. you deserve the chance to start all over. good luck!
2007-02-13 16:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by CS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋