We are all guilty of falling in love with someone because of the way they look..how to fall in love otherwise?

Question

If you've read my previous questions ... you probably know a little about me ... I've realized that everytime I fall for girl ... its always because of the way she looks .... and then later i start knowing who she is and then either i like her if she's nice or i don't (i'm looking for an indian girl and most indian girls where i live are spoilt and have lost their culture .. i live in USA) .... but i still feel guilty because regardless of whether she turns out nice or not ... the fact is that the FIRST reason why i liked her was because of the way she looked .... i know that everyone wants the person they love to be the most beautiful thing in the world ... but i still feel guilty because usually, if i have a day dream ... the girl in there usually resembles some pretty girl ... and THAT pretty girl that it resembles usually isn't even nice!!! ... i mean not all the times but still .. i have a hard time understanding life and feel guilty ... how can i get more mature and ignore looks?

Answer 1

ACCORDING TO ME LOVE INVOLVES CARING, SHARING,AFFECTION,BELIEF,.etc. IN LOVE GOOD LOOKS SHOULD NOT BE GIVEN IMPORTANCE. A PRETTY GIRL MAYBE BAD IN HER BEHAVIOR.
THEREFORE,I THINK YOU SHOULD LOVE A GIRL WHO LOVES YOU MORE AND UNDERSTANDS YOU.
IF YOU STOP JUDGING GIRLS BY THEIR LOOKS,YOU CAN SURLY BECOME A MUCH BETTER AND MATURED PERSON.

YOU CAN ALSO TRY TO MAKE FRIENDS ONLINE.BY THIS I THINK YOU WOULD BE ABLE TO FIND YOUR DREAM GIRL......

DON'T LOSE HOPE.
ALL THE BEST.

Answer 2

Try meeting someone on line. That why you get to know the person before their looks. You can get all the important questions answered before meeting.

Answer 3

Nevermind about that. It is just a process. You don't have to make her yours before you get to know her. So, just get to know more people, no matter pretty or not. You don't have to rush into relationships until you've decided.