why do girls get stuck on guys who dont care about them?

Question

why cant i get over him, he doesnt care if were together or not, and i keep running back to him becuase i cant let go. and i dont know why, and id ont know what to do?

Answer 1

That's just the way we are, it's funny and sad at the same time. What's even funnier is that if you were to meet a guy who treated you like a princess, you would probably reject him and end up treating him like sh**. That's what I seem to do.
But you'll snap out of it one day, after your done running around and chasing him, you'll get tired of it. Have you ever thought that maybe if you didn't run back to him and kind of shined him on, it would make him miss and or want you? You know play alittle hard to get.
Really no matter what any one of us on here say to you, it really won't make a difference. No one can tell you how to get over him or what to do. Besides I think you really already deep down know the answer to your own question.
Best of Luck to you!!!

Answer 2

I know why and here is my 2 cents. Because, you feel very small about yourself and then you place him so high up. Now no matter what you do you can not get away from him. If i am you I will find another guy better and good looker than him. I will not look back and I will move forward for my future. Remember, there always another sky on top of a sky.Good luck my friend and you really are brave to ask this question and I am sure it will help so many women out there who are afraid to ask the same question.

Answer 3

Because they get too involved with the wrong guys. I have never been in this situation. People are not always at the same point in their life as you are. Some people choose never to be. Let them be... You will figure it out within the first month, move on. Take it slow get to know em a bit but don't give up too much of yourself. I don't mean act shy, just be yourself. But keep em wanting more, don't play games though they hate that and see right through it. Have him wanting to take you out. Have him calling you. Don't ask for these things to happen just get him wanting to make it happen. Let him see you already have a happy life, you may want him to be an addition, but just wait and see if he is a player or a stayer before you let it show. Treat people as you would like to be treated and if you don't get the respect you feel you deserve do not waste another single moment of your precious life on them, its too short!

Answer 4

I've been in this same situation multiple times. I guess it's one thing that screws us over when it comes to guys. We care and they don't. All I can say really, is to do your best to get over him and move on. If he doesn't care or is plain just mean about it, it isn't worth your effort nor your tears caring for a guy who doesn't share the same feelings. It may be hard at first, but trust me, when you find someone who shares your feelings just as much as you, it will be wonderful. Just remember this: Don't settle just because you think you won't do better!!!!

Answer 5

I'm going through the exact same thing right now with this guy I care about. He says he likes and cares for me but not with the same intensity that I have for him. It hurts whenever he says that to me and I don't know why but I keep hoping he'll eventually fall in love with me. I think some women just love too much and its hard to understand why we aren't loved in return. I would try to not get too caught up in him and start being more independent of him. That's what I'm going to try to do so good luck to you too!

Answer 6

Because the second you met him he knew he was a higher level catch than you and you knew it also. So from that moment on he always had the upper hand. Ya see, a woman never goes for a "lesser than" partner and a guy always does because we really just want to get laid. We think short term and you think long term. Knowing that you were a lesser than scenario, he could care less after he taps that ...

Answer 7

I never did figure that one out, so it's a mystery to me as well. I've met some really *wonderful* girls who had everything going for them, but groveled at the feet of guys who treated them like total crap.

It must be some weird primal instinct or something . . .

Answer 8

because they subconsciously want to. it's actually as simple as that. if i were to ask you, do you want a guy who doesnt care for you you'd at once say NO! but when you meet a guy like that, who confuses you, who calls now and then dont call later, who's sweet now but isnt later, girls get a feeling of uneasiness which makes them invest more of themselves and their feelings just to win the guy. this makes the guy in control, and the game is essentially over. because in the first place, true love was not in place. what's in place is a game of trying who controls who. true love is not like that. true love is caring for each other's feelings and knowing each other inside out and accepting imperfections. you are only telling yourself that you cant get over him because you want to feel that way and reminisce. but if you think logically it doesnt make a bit of sense to care about someone who doesn't care about you. this is the same with guys who show girls they care for them so much. girls get turned off because they want someone who can control them, but sometimes this gets out of place like in your case. i suggest you look at your situation from an objective point of view rather than an emotional one. then tell yourself is it worth it?

Answer 9

I dont really know why we do this i think its some one we care about alot and we dont want to let go

Answer 10

i have the same problem, sometimes ppl just nee to take a deep breath, and try to forget the past, it's over, and it only happens once. it was fun and now there is no reason to relive it!