We've been together for 7.5 years, married for 5. We talked about this very early in our relationship, with me telling him "I want kids, if you don't, then maybe you should just move on." He said he would be fine with one, two max. Well maybe be fine with, got lost in translation. He told me last night that if I were to get pregnant without specifically asking his permission, he'd leave- "accidents don't happen." Also, that he'd probably be happier to see our dogs that any child we might have. His dad was absentee, and he resents him for it, and I've pointed that out, but he says he resents him for the ensuing divorce not the absenteeism. I am 31 and he is 36 so age is not an issue. He is used to doing what he wants when he wants with little regard to others, and I think losing that is his biggest fear. I really wanted him to WANT a kid, not just accept it. I don't think it is responsible to have a child into those circumstances. To me this seems almost like a deal breaker, am I right?
2007-01-04
03:38:37
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bunnyhead
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