Well I used to be VERY naiive and I've learned from my mistakes. Last year I kept this resolution: I'm not sneaking around, I'm careful about the boys I talk to, I'm not internet dating, I'm not exploiting myself, and I'm very knowledgeable about relationships
Do you have any tips to keep me from going back to my old ways?
2007-01-04 03:13:44 · 8 answers · asked by Déjà Vu 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I already have a love. We love each other but can't be together rite now but I'm find with it. I'm not concerned with dating anyone. True love isn't my problem I just need help on sticking with not lying, or sneaking around like going places I'm not supposed to. You know, things like that
2007-01-04 03:41:12 · update #1
Write a letter to yourself about your future goals and remind yourself of the drama, pain, and hurt you felt when you did those things in the past. And when you feel weak, read the letter and just keep reminding yourself your going towards a new you. And that you are learning to love the life your leading.
2007-01-04 03:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read somewhere that the basis of any good relationship is 'trust' (all sort of relationships - boyfriend/girlfriend, parent/daughter, employer/employee, politician/voter, etc.
Before you hook up with a new boyfriend, put yourself in the position of your own father and ask yourself "Is this one of the good guys?", "Can he be trusted to treat her right?", "Would I want this man to marry my daughter?". Even if its just a casual thing, its a good way to think about it. What do you know for and against trusting him?
This means you don't have to avoid relationships. The exact opposite - it gives you a way to start one on the right basis.
Now trust works both ways. People will like you more if you are someone that can be trusted (to keep secrets, not spread hurtful gossip or lies, stay faithful, stick up for your friends, etc).
Another thing - Don't let previous boyfriends prejudice you against new ones just because they appear the same at first glance. Treat new people as if they are okay until they themselves do something you don't like.
Analyse any previous traumas and make sure they haven't left you with unhelpful beliefs about people that turn you into a very negative person. Stay positive and enjoy life.
2007-01-04 11:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday, look into the mirror . . and I mean look into your own eyes, and say, "I am beautiful and worthy to be loved. There is a special person out there for me and I will not rest till I find him. I will not deter from this path. I will not waiver in my devotion to myself . . for I am beautiful and worthy to be loved."
You can vary this as much as you want. Just remember the objective is to realize and affirm that you are on a pathway to find the true love. Your true love. No other person will due and you won't be found with the wrong person when the right one comes along.
Good luck. This is the best resolution I've heard yet .. for a single person anyway.
Mine was to manage my money better. Not because I want to, but because my wife asked me to.
2007-01-04 11:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your resolution at the top of your daily routine. In order to do that, you may need to organize your day better. You can use simple computer software to remind you of your resolution. I prefer a simple one-page to-do list with my resolution printed at the top everyday. Then I add calls I must make, etc. to the daily list. Having the resolution up there at the top will be helpful.
2007-01-04 11:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Blu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Think about your NEW ways. Think of all the benefits of keeping the resolution. However, it is not wrong to date. You should just date the guys you actually feel attracted to.
2007-01-04 11:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Michael n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what I do - I've kept my resolution for 22 years straight, because every year I resolve that I will not start shooting heroin. I hope I don't give in to temptation this year...
2007-01-04 11:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Pretending To Work 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well before I can help u not to go back to the old ways---i need to know what the old ways were
2007-01-04 11:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be firm with your self
2007-01-04 11:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by noel22f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋