I leave my toddler with a friend whilst i work part time a couple of times a week, we have been close friends for the past 3 years or so. Yesterday another friend of ours saw my friend hit my son whilst in the street. He was crying and she walked off and left him to go into a shop. My husband and i are both very upset and will not be leaving him in her care again. What would you do? I feel its my fault, i should have known.
2007-01-04 06:01:29 · 5 answers · asked by katyllou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My friend has had post natal depression, she has good and bad days though i never expected this.
The person who saw this happen doesnt know her and was very concearned. She recognised our son and is trustworthy. She has absoloutely no reason to lie. Also my friend told me she had been there with the kids that day.
2007-01-04 07:16:18 · update #1
Basically you need to know if the "other friend" is telling the truth really because if not the seriousness of this could really offend.
So yes confrontation with what you know as said. You will probably end up not knowing so I'm assuming that you find someone else to look after your son. Whether you still stay in contact with this person is completely up to you, which is probably down to how much you actually believe them.
Normally I can tell if people are lying if you confront them with what you know by their initial reaction.
If I knew it was totally true I'd would probably take legal action (although I would probably want to kick their butts multiple times more!).
2007-01-04 06:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her with what you know, she will probably deny it but you need to let her know. Have you noticed any changes in your son's personality? Any marks or bruises she can't explain? Is the person who told you this reliable or just trying to cause trouble, has a motive or what not.
The best thing you can do is keep your child away from this person and maybe reconsider the friendship. No one has the right to put their hands on your kid. Too bad you didn't have a nanny cam to catch her in the act, you could have had her arrested.
2007-01-04 06:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset........if someone did that to my son and he is only 11 months old. I am very protective over him and I am very concerned on who watches him. You need to sit down with her and let her know how concerned you are. This would be a problem with me.
2007-01-04 07:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by davidnicolewilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault. You thought you could trust her, and have known her for years. I would tell her what you heard, let her give her answer, and kindly explain that you can't trust her anymore. Being a parent is a learning experience. Trust me I know.
2007-01-04 06:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by swtt2sxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and see if it was true or not. If true, why? Then don't leave your child with her again, pay someone like a day care service.
2007-01-04 06:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋