My Ex-wife wants to meet my new girlfriend only after 2 months of dating. We co-parent the 2 children. While it is usually a good thing to know the people who are involved with our children as co-parents, when is it considered appropriate to introduce the new girlfriend who will be spending time with our kids? Two months to me seems a bit early.
My new girlfriend is opposed to this so early and the ex-wife expects it.
2007-01-04 04:05:41 · 21 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am the ex-wife in my situation. If your children will be spending any time alone with the new gf I can understand your ex's concern, but she should trust your judgement and know that you would not put the children in danger. Tell the ex to relax and when the time is right the two will meet. Your children will keep you somewhat connected for the rest of your lives. School events, etc will eventually put the ex and the girlfriend in the same place at the same time.
It also sounds like the ex is a little controlling. Just because you have children together doesn't give her the right to know everyone in your life. That ended when the marriage ended.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 07:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by laugheveryday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your girlfriend is already spending a great deal of time with your children it is not necessary yet. It sounds like your ex-wife wants to meet her just to be nosy. The only reason she needs to meet her is to provide as the other contact person for the children, so when the girlfriend is a constant in the children's lives, then yes, she needs to meet her. Their meeting needs to be about the children.
2007-01-04 04:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by skittle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to realize if you're going to stay longer with your new girlfriend..Second, she should be also ready to meet your ex-wife and your children. Take your time and don't rush anywhere. You won't make a mistake if you wait a little longer, when you and your girlfriend are ready to make another step in your relationship.
PS. With the respect to your ex-wife, you and your girlfriend are making that decision at the moment.
2007-01-04 04:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex should meet the new gf once the new gf is spending time with the kids. Have the kids met her yet ? I think 2 months is way too early for the kids to meet her in the first place.
2007-01-04 04:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. And actually two months is a little soon to be involving new girlfriend with kids either. Your children could get attached too soon and you may decide the GF is not the one. Wait until you are in LT committed relationship before involving new GF with kids and Ex. You could scare off GF or hurt your kids.
2007-01-04 04:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, your new GF spendin time with your kids should not be an option after 2 months. u barely know this new woman and have no idea where the relationship is going. keep the new GF away from your kids for a couple months more, then if u decide it's worth it, consider allowin your ex to meet her. right now she probably wants to meet your GF for her own gratification as much as for the kids.
2007-01-04 04:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your new girlfriend needs to realize this is about the children; it's not your ex wife being nosey. You're right that she should know the people spending time with her children-she has every right. Sorry you're in such a tough spot. Good luck.
2007-01-04 04:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-01-28 11:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be really stupid and don't understand women and their motives like other women do. Contacting through facebook OCCASIONALLY is fine imo but text and email are more personal. here's what you do: go meet the ex WITH your wife and wish her well. Don't try and be the 'nice guy', your marriage comes first.
2016-03-29 07:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is to early your ex is just being nosey so tell her if things are still going ok with the gf in another couple of months then yes but til then no and that is that.
2007-01-04 04:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by picture 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋