Friends - December 2007

My friend has had a bf since high school. However, he is 28, she is 24. She has a good job, and finished college while caring for his two sons, but he still hasn't finished high school and is selling drugs in order to support himself. He does not pay child support. He has a mental illness that makes him have rages, but will not take his medication. She lives with her parents because she will not let her children be around him alone with drugs/anger issues around, as when he was much younger (years ago) he was physically abusive.

Now for the problem - she has wanted to leave him for ages, but every time she does, he refuses to see their children. She gets very upset because their son starts asking for him and cries. He follows her around secretly and snaps photos or videos. She's convinced that her children NEED their father, so she reluctantly gets back with him.

Is there any advice I could give to her? I'm not a mother, maybe she's right? She seems to be wilting inside

2007-12-23 18:15:09 · 13 answers · asked by drusillaslittleboot 6

K well my sisters ex boyfriend likes me and well, I dont feel the same. The main thing is that I wouldnt do that to her, and second, I just dont like him hahaha. Well anyway i dont want to just say NO cause hes really nice and really wants to get to no me and he says we would be a cute couple but like, i just dont feel the same. What should I say to him? ((oh and my sis doesnt kno about this, and i dont plan on telling her haha)

2007-12-23 17:42:43 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many girlfriends can a boy handle at a time.

2007-12-23 17:42:23 · 1 answers · asked by Jasvinder s 1

well i am havin a lotta problems with parents supposedly going to get a divorce and threatning.. i am havin troubles with friends and makin friends and such and problems with tryin to keep good grades.. i imean its hard with all goin on..

also i have treated friends like **** and i just need to let them know i am terribly sorry and i really am not like dat..i dont know wut came to me.. i just have a lotta stress and such goin on.
i know it was wrong. please just forgive me. it is the right thing to do.

does anybody have any advice on parents gettin a divorce? and friends? and school problems and such? if u do it wuld be great. cuz i just cant get thru dis..especially on my own..

2007-12-23 17:35:34 · 3 answers · asked by Emily H 2

have you ever wondered about your contacts and who they might be? Maybe the girl next door or the next serial killer...

2007-12-23 17:15:23 · 6 answers · asked by nomorecapri 5

I talk to myself sometimes. No, I'm not crazy, but it just makes life so much easier for me, maybe not so much for others. I can have conversaitons in my head, rehearse them, then it feels like i don't need to talk to others. Strange, I know.

A couple of weeks ago, I went to a family party. Surprisngly, there was this guy from my high school, (same grade) that i never knew existed. So i was tryign to figure out who he was, and was going through some comversations in my head. I'm not sure, but i think i was staring at him too much. I didn't mean to, but i was zoning out.

ANyway, does anyone have any adivce or psychoanalzyses? LOL thanks;)

2007-12-23 17:05:34 · 10 answers · asked by Kalia 4

to pretend that it doesn't bother me & hold my feelings inside.
or is it better to let them out & agrue back to let ppl know how I feel?

2007-12-23 17:00:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whats with my friend's recent attitude?
So me and this girl have been freinds for like 7 years and we never liked one another just friend thing. After I broke up with my ex she really helped me get over her. Last week we went out along with another couple of friends and I guess I had feelings for her at that night and I flirted a bit and we looked at each other a lot. After that day everything feels different now when i speak to her online. She seems more cold and even now after i got over her she seems to one word answers and not even want to converse really anymore. I asked her if she wanted to go out and chill cuz i was gonna head out anyway she said no thanks i ahve work next day which is normal. Then I ask her if there is anything i did lately to piss her off she said no silly. Then just said bye...i dunno is it just me.. and I KNOW for sure she doesn't like me that way and has a bf too.

2007-12-23 16:52:43 · 3 answers · asked by yahoo 2

I bought one of my closest friends a plane ticket in August to attend a wedding. She moved across country last yr and her niece was getting married, we thought it would be a good time for all of us to hang out but she didn't have the $$ for flight. I offered to pay for half but she still has not paid anything.. She has two kids and is single which of course always lends itself to expenses, but I told her I NEEDED it. Now, she rarely is calling, only left a message saying she is depressed and having problems.. Oh, and working overtime! So with the O/T why can she not pay up? Would u all be mad?

2007-12-23 16:51:29 · 25 answers · asked by Elle 3

My husband thinks that I spend way too much time on Yahoo and he feels cheated on.
Is that ridiculos or what?

2007-12-23 16:26:20 · 12 answers · asked by nomorecapri 5

can.t sleep ;so i thought i would help you out .

2007-12-23 16:11:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i need some help here, my x is acting really wierd around me, me and her talk hang out, but when i asked her a question she changed the subject fairly quickly, and the question was, if me and her would ever be together any time soon. i mean when ever i ask her that she'll change that subject, i even had her bff try and get it out of her but she changes the subject on her as well? so if you under stand this question than please HELP...thanx...

2007-12-23 15:37:54 · 3 answers · asked by spikex02boy 1

I have a friend that has horrible body odor. Unfortunately, I haven't had the guts to tell her. I just don't know the right way to approach it. She is quite sensitive and I feel that I'll hurt her feelings if I don't handle it properly.

2007-12-23 14:15:21 · 19 answers · asked by Talkstress 6

I am a friendly guy...I feel good meeting new people and make friends..I meet some new friends and we were having a good conversation..
I talked equally well and the conversation went well for an hour...we were just chilling and chit chatting getting to know eah other well..

Now someone in the group said "you are a calm guy like one of my friend in Chicago"

My question is:
If I talk good and I am not silent then why I am called calm..

then what is the diffference between calm and silent??

I use my hands tomake guestures and I bet it makes me look energetic atleast to some extent..

So I talk good, maintain a good conversation and look energetic enough to nod head and make guestures..

then why am I sometimes get this 'you look like a calm person" comment ...please help me understand what that means actually!?

2007-12-23 14:12:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i don't think she is a true friend because she is always insulting me then saying i'm the one being mean and going against me and she says stuff like i'm ugly, i've asked people on here if i'm ugly and everyone said i'm wicked pretty and stuff, and then she will always ask to sleepover and i always lie and say no because she's just going to make fun of me more. and if you ask me, she's the ugly one!

2007-12-23 13:31:33 · 57 answers · asked by keℓsey<3 4

What do you think?

2007-12-23 13:29:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

well...i was thinking today and i thought about how kids believe in Santa. My mom didnt buy gifts saying from santa so i didnt belive for a long time. i dont actually think i ever really believed. and i was wondering how ur parents were? i wish mine did because i would believe longer.
anyways Qs:
1)how long did you guys believe?
2)any stories on how u found out or any story about itt?
this is random but iwas just thinkins and i want to know if u guys had any problems with it or anyhting when u were a kid

2007-12-23 13:20:05 · 25 answers · asked by dreamer 5

My highschool has only max 680 students. that is less than an average freshmen class! i didn't wanna go to this school, but no school would take me and they sent me to a EVEN smaller school in the first place. i had to transfer and they only transfer me to this school. i feel like i'm wasting " the best years of my life" while everyone else is having such a good time. all my friends got into big schools and they are having a blast. i noe im being immature and i wanna stop feeling this way. i try to meet friends. but if i turn out liking this school? then i won't even try to transfer and then ill miss out next year's "best years of my life"? i don't know. everyone else seems to be loving highschool and i hate it. it's so hard to make friends here. my parents won't let me transfer and i noe it'll b hard to transfer anyways. am i really missing out? how can i feel better? are big schools better? how does it feel to b in a big school?

2007-12-23 12:50:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm trying to get down to PA to see someone without my mom knowing I'm going to see them but I need permission. they can't know I'm seeing him, I need to have a different excuse, I can't think of an excuse though.

2007-12-23 12:49:48 · 2 answers · asked by Kate B 1

I have a good friend that I like very much but I have a few problems that I don't know how to approach her about. She lives right next to me and finds excuses to come over. Sometimes when I tell her I can't hang out she comes over anyway and stays for hours with my roommates untill I come home. I am pretty sure it is because she is insecure but I am not sure how to talk to her about it. One thing that just recently started to happen is she will invite me to go somewhere and then decide not to go after I have gotten ready and then come over to my house instead.She knows when Im home because she lives so close so I can't lie to try and get space...Please help lol

2007-12-23 12:27:13 · 4 answers · asked by Katharina Reher 1

I know there are lots of questions similar to mine, and I already browsed for some answers, I've tried
dig - incubus
friends will be friends - queen
you're my best friend - queen..
most of the other stuff that I see are either too cheesy or something that's more for your gf/bf than a friend.. I'm looking for a song that is not cheesy, and not a song that is umm, overused? (like the song from vitamin c or mariah carey songs) i'm looking for a song about good memories or having fun together, not about goodbyes, saying sorry or a broken friendship.. it would be good if the song is fun to listen to, or if possible, rock.. and yeah, it would be best if it sounds like from the band suede.. hehehe.. but any suggestion is fine.. thanks... oh wait, even korean and japanese songs about friendship are welcome also... thanks again...

2007-12-23 12:17:25 · 17 answers · asked by bading 2

I get sooo jealous of one of my friends, and I find myself copying her city chic style and trying to be like her
She's prettier than me, richer, has better clothes, has had a boyfriend, she has a perfect family and her parents arent divorced, and she is the leader of my group of friends. I used to be the leader than she kindof overshone me and became the leader, so there's something else to be jealous of!


This happened to me with a friend from 4th to 6th grade, (im in 8th now) and It got terrible, so I want to stop this before it gets out of hand.
How can I form my own style instead of being jealous of hers? How can I shine more brightly than her, to become a leader, not a follower? How can I ignore my jealously and focus on myself?

Basically, all I want is to become the leader again and stop being jealous!
As you can tell, I'm overwelmed with this problem, so any advice whatsoever is appreciated.

2007-12-23 12:14:26 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-23 12:11:01 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm always hearing about how it's rare for a friend to stay with you your whole life. Do you have any friends like that?

2007-12-23 12:06:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Most of my family and friends support me and encourage me, but I have one family member who continually puts me down. Every time I speak with her... she says things like "when are you going to get it together?". This is really annoying especially since I work and pay my own bills and am a nice person generally doing the best I can in the position I am in. She is very snobby and I have noticed she also puts her other friends down because they too are not living up to her idea of what a good life is. It drives me crazy. Any suggestions! I can't deal with her anymore. And she is far from having it all together (by the way).

2007-12-23 10:52:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Nan has recently died and she kept what seems like years upon years of family photos, i am stuggaling to find a way of being able to store them and keep them safe whilst also finding a way to let people be able to look at them without just sticking them into a box.. Any help would be really apprciated.

2007-12-23 10:41:20 · 4 answers · asked by corrinab2705 3

I had a dream last night about this guy i used to have a major crush on, i had a dream that he finally noticed me because i came back to where he was, but i dont know what to thik of it. Im confused, he lives in another country and we dont talk. HELP!!!!!!!! wat do i do about the dream.

2007-12-23 10:39:13 · 17 answers · asked by Princess M 2

Okay, I used to be his friend until something happened to our friendship and that made us not friends anymore. I'm not telling you what happened because it's going to make me cry again. he's mostly there for me and when I'm upset or sad. I haven't talk to him for a couple weeks already and I don't want him in my life anymore. we used to like each other really much until he starts to fall in love with my friend and I went out with Jake (His friend). I already removed him from my contacts here, my 360 page and my messenger list. he did the same except his contacts here. I'm still on his contacts list! I really don't know why he hasn't remove me yet! I'm already out of his life! if I'm really out of his life, then why am I still on his contacts? plz be honest! Thanks so much for answering this question and I will check on this later!

-ConfusedGirlForever *(Diane N)*

2007-12-23 10:31:36 · 13 answers · asked by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7

i find it very difficult to know that my mum loves my junior brother the most it pains me that he is always given all the attention. what do i do?

2007-12-23 10:15:02 · 3 answers · asked by diva babe 1

I really wish that me and him could've been closer and i hate that we won't get that chance now.

2007-12-23 09:46:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous