Family & Relationships - 19 January 2007

My father is one of those guys that wants a man to ask his permission to marry his daughter. I always thought that that would be fine, until recently. My boyfriend asked my dad's permission, and my dad said no...for the following reasons.

1. We don't go to church. (I was raised in a very religious family, and I've decided to stop going to church and give myself some time to discover what I believe. My parents HATE that.)

2. My boyfriend is overweight. (Personally, I think that my dad sees that my boyfriend is a better man than he is, and this is the only thing he can really find wrong with him.)

Now, I respect my father, but these reasons are silly. Regardless of his motivations, I believe that he is looking out for his own feelings rather than my well-being, which is the point of asking his permission. Because of this, I have decided to marry my boyfriend without my father's permission. (BTW we are both adults, living on our own). How do I break the news to my family

2007-01-19 10:28:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My boyfriend was fine untill i started talking to Jason the hottest guy in the school...and he been being all jealous
and he seems to be all sad everyday
he wants to make out more i come over to his house everyday when i get off the bus
he has just been sad he constantaly tells me he loves me
and he wants to go to the movies EVERY FRIDAY
..the problem is y is he cutting him self i saw it on his arm and i asked him why and he said it's something to do whit jason and i just freaked out and he said i love you whats the problem?

2007-01-19 10:28:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

thankyou to everyone that answred my question, an i have tried to talk with my bf he wont listen says im stupid. or twists things an he has even addmited he twists things to blame me because he is good at it. says its his way not to show affection but he spends more time looking at other women. an saying how nice thety r. it all hurts i used to have so much confidence i know i need to find someone to love me but im scared to leave in case i never do. and i do still love him but just want some love back. but thank u every one 4 yr kind advice an i hope i get strong enough to leave 4 me and my girls thank u all x

2007-01-19 10:27:38 · 7 answers · asked by lizjess2000 4 in Singles & Dating

my last experience with a girl really upset me. we were attracted to each other, but when i started being nice, showing how i feel (but i wasnt that clingy)..she lost 'it'. she got bored, and turned me down.

and i also know even most guys get turned off when girls show their affection...why is it like this in the dating world. to those with a lot of experience, is being nice really turns off the attraction?

2007-01-19 10:27:04 · 10 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Singles & Dating

This girl just text me asking me to describe her in one word... shes really pretty, hott, funny to be with and just a great laugh! I get on with her well but cant think of a word that sums everything up...
Any ideas?

Cheers,
Gary

2007-01-19 10:26:21 · 37 answers · asked by Gary 3 in Singles & Dating

Would you risk you health to save you relationship if you loved the guy more than anything in the world?

2007-01-19 10:26:01 · 3 answers · asked by at w 1 in Singles & Dating

for about a year and it was great! We would go out he would send me flowers, take me out to dinner, and also we were more sexual with each other. Well now that we are bf and Gf it seems that I get less attention from him he don’t kiss me as often we don’t have much sex. It seems like we get along with each other The other day I ask him if he would put gas in my car and his response was I’m I married to you! Do you think he seeing someone else? Or is it that we need some time apart.. some please help!

2007-01-19 10:24:05 · 6 answers · asked by liz r 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-19 10:23:36 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-19 10:23:21 · 4 answers · asked by Stephen B 1 in Singles & Dating

i want to dat but would love to meet a great girl where can i find one

2007-01-19 10:23:00 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

is it ok if i like several girls at the same time and if so how do i choose?

2007-01-19 10:22:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Knowing you will never get it back.

2007-01-19 10:22:01 · 6 answers · asked by no name brand canned beans 6 in Singles & Dating

Alright I dont understand this.. My girlfriend and I have been going out close to a year now.. Everythings been fine, we've been happy, nothing going wrong, and now out of the blue she wants a "break." She said she still cares about me the same, on a scale 1-10 she said 9 an a half, but she said she doesnt want a relationship right now.. It makes no sense, we still see eachother the same and nothings really different except for the physical part, if she doesnt want sex thats fine but I cant even kiss the girl.. I asked her if were going to get back together again and she said most likely, and she also said she's not looking for another guy.. She's torturing me with this, girls help me out, SHE doesnt even know why shes doing this

2007-01-19 10:21:36 · 11 answers · asked by John Paul Jones 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Have looked in the obvious places. I need O and C in silver or Red.

2007-01-19 10:20:26 · 17 answers · asked by Elizabeth T 1 in Weddings

hmm i need a great aol screen name

i love to dance and i defenitly want kait or kay in there...

i want it to be creative and diffrent any ideas?????????

2007-01-19 10:20:24 · 14 answers · asked by im_suuweeet 2 in Singles & Dating

if my childs mother is late on a friday when she is supposed to pick her up at 6:00pm and she picks her up at 7:00 can i refuse visatation right

2007-01-19 10:20:16 · 8 answers · asked by character 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

do you have any suggestions on getting his interest back. what are sweet and nice things you think i can do to make him feel special and rekindle the feelings he had for me? i'm looking for actions that won't be depicted as psycho, pathetic or desperate.

2007-01-19 10:20:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he got me mad, i found a number in his pocket, so i beat him up. not in a girly way. i did it with my fists and a few objects around the house. he was crying and stuff....
he didn't hit back, he didn't get the chance to really...
he hasn't called me since it happened yesterday......whats going to happen to us?

2007-01-19 10:19:47 · 25 answers · asked by me 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-19 10:18:58 · 15 answers · asked by brassinpocket 3 in Singles & Dating

Let me rephrase the question a little better. Do you think this is strange for a single divorced women to take back her maiden name when the divorce was final, but still call herself a Mrs.?

My Husbands ex-wife constantly refers to herself in the third person and it is by the name of Mrs. [maiden name]

We have already established that she has a screw loose, but this is just weird. Don’t you agree?

2007-01-19 10:18:58 · 21 answers · asked by November Hale 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i wana cry really bad me an my best friend just got in a fight wat do i do

2007-01-19 10:18:57 · 15 answers · asked by caylee d 2 in Friends

1)a girl who does NOT SMOKE (ciggarettes, WEED)is very nice and kind,drinks occasionally,isnt too big of a party animal but drinks sometimes. is focused on her job and school.likes to go to see movies or go out to dinner.

or

2)a girl who smokes weed and drinks alcohol likes to have fun partying, not really skany has a sense of humor personality...isnt too focused on her job or school but she goes most of the time. likes to go to parties.

2007-01-19 10:18:52 · 12 answers · asked by lala girl 2 in Singles & Dating

The guy and the girl is 13yrs. Same school. Same class. They're just friends.

2007-01-19 10:18:34 · 1 answers · asked by cardo11 3 in Singles & Dating

He has 4 grown children who I used to get along with just fine. However, the youngest (girl/24y/o) decided she hates me and doesn't want her dad to marry because she will get nothing when he dies. She hates me because I stopped giving her money. At the time she was living at home, trying to work. She cannot keep a job as she does not go more than a few days and calls in. She does not work, barely graduated high school (I put her in home school when she was 19) and has moved out with a BF of 1 month.

She cannot pay her rent because she refuses to work. Daddy has been paying for her share of the rent for 5 months including the money we both spent to get them into the apartment. Dad wants to shake her but he keeps giving in to her whining and repeated requests for money. He knows it is wrong but seems to think he needs to help her. Meanwhile, I have two grown children of my own, on their own, living with husbands, owning their own homes, etc. Quite the opposite of his children. His ex-wife and daughter tag team him about the daughter wanting money, please pay her phone bill, etc. The ex never worked either.

How can I get this to stop? I truly can't handle it. We’ve been together 5 years and he truly is my best friend. I think he feels guilty about the divorce, but his wife left him and left him with all of the children. The daughter in question was 5 at that time and was raised by him. She and I used to get along until I cut off the funds. Now I am just a fat B. Just so you know, none of her brothers or sister like her either. They all know how much she takes advantage of Dad. Dad knows it is wrong but somehow cannot be stronger than the continuous wanting of money. She told her dad she hates him. She gave him nothing for Christmas, but the mom got presents. She is rude, brings nothing to the table and just horrible to be around. HELP!

2007-01-19 10:17:10 · 13 answers · asked by Patti F 2 in Weddings

i'm really confused

2007-01-19 10:16:53 · 19 answers · asked by loveangel101 2 in Singles & Dating

have anyone ever fallen in love with someone they barely new, because it felt right. is that weird?

2007-01-19 10:16:46 · 16 answers · asked by sherie s 1 in Singles & Dating

I have seen several questions on here about it. I do not see a problem with it. I do not wear it often if ever. Who is going to know except for a girlfriend, wife, or the people at the gym or locker room? I honestly think "going commando" is comfortable especially in a comfortable pair of jeans (501s, American Eagle, or Abercrombie) or some basketball or soccer shorts (climalite or nylon). Girls can speak for themselves, but it is nice from a guys point of view when a girl does not wear any. I prefer my women to wear nothing instead of Victorias Secret panties. If you are wearing a dress, then just wear a longer one or keep covered. There is something that is a turn on when an extra layer of clothing is not worn. As long as a guy (and girl) has good hygiene, there should not be a problem. If there is a little issue with that, I do not see what the big deal is if you have to wash a little more. Just enjoy the comfort. I think some people do not want to get out of their comfort zone.

2007-01-19 10:16:26 · 13 answers · asked by jerry_taylor31 1 in Singles & Dating

and you and your new husband had grown children from previous marriages, a boy and a girl, and THEY fell in love and had a relationship, would that be morally wrong, or would it not matter? Would anyone consider this to be incest?

2007-01-19 10:15:27 · 10 answers · asked by orphanannie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i think that i made a mistake telling my friend i had a crush on her friend, then she told me that i wasn't his type and i should totally stay away, is she a real friend or is it true?

2007-01-19 10:15:25 · 10 answers · asked by loveangel101 2 in Friends

I'm a single girl...today I'm feeling a little bit weird, all day long.....my heart is so warm...and somehow I feel that pretty soon I will fall in love with someone ....and that person is close...I swear to god I can feel it...I can feel that is a nice and warm person, who will totally respect me...and we will have a mutual love... Is this possible, or its just my imagination?Ever happened to you?

I hope I'm not nuts :)

thanks.

2007-01-19 10:15:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating