my last experience with a girl really upset me. we were attracted to each other, but when i started being nice, showing how i feel (but i wasnt that clingy)..she lost 'it'. she got bored, and turned me down.
and i also know even most guys get turned off when girls show their affection...why is it like this in the dating world. to those with a lot of experience, is being nice really turns off the attraction?
2007-01-19 10:27:04 · 10 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shut up! (and I don't mean that literally, you know, just like an expression :) Please check out one of my latest questions right here, and also take the time to read some of the good answers I got (I think some of them there ARE about the whole nice thing; The one I chose as best answer, I absolutely loved)
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070112164743AArnheg
But, yeah, I'm 17 and even just today, my friend said I was way too innocent... I have to agree. I'm just too good and nice even compared to my friends who I thought were just like me. Don't be down about this at all, I LOVE NICE GUYS. Like I said, check out that question link up there :)
2007-01-19 10:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great to be nice,but it is more to a relationship then being nice. The love has to be there too. Maybe Mr.Nice might appear to be Mr.weak. Maybe you are doing all of the right things,maybe the young lady is not looking for the nice type.She might just be looking for someone to treat her any kind of way,she might not feel as though she deserves you. I don't doubt that you aren't a good man,but maybe you shouldn't let your guard down. Maybe you are searching in all the wrong places. You seem like a special type of man that will cater to his woman, do all of the things that are required as a man. Maybe you should just be patient. If you are the type of man that I think you are,we women need more of you around. Good luck finding that special someone,I am sure that you will.
2007-01-19 10:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Don't over do it. It sounds cliche, but it's true. Also most peope aren't as nice as they think they are. Everyone thinks they are nice and thinks they make a good boyfriend/girlfriend, and yet how many really do? And being nice isn't enough. Be responsible, do what you say you will every time. Say only what you mean. And keep it fun. Don't complain a lot, don't talk about other people and don't show off. Good luck.
2007-01-19 10:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but I can assure you - as a 26 year old mother the next guy I go for will be nothing less than "Mr. Nice"
Hang in there, and don't change who you are... those girls who broke your heart will be wishing they were still with you when Mr Bad Boy breaks their heart.
2007-01-19 10:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Corsetry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all girls are avoiding Mr. Nice. If a girl loses interest because your actually a good guy then they arent the right girl for you. The dating world sucks, but you will find someone for you, keep trying.
2007-01-19 10:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there's actually nothing wrong with being nice, that girl was probably judgemental or she just fell for another person, but there is absolutely nothing wrong for a guy being nice, most girls actually like them, they just want to go for the bad guys sometimes because they can change them
2007-01-19 10:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by loveangel101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice is wimpy, unfortunately. We live in a sarcastic, superficial world where you have to be a nasty, bitchy female hottie or an arrogant male hottie to be cool and for people to be attracted to you.
2007-01-19 10:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 21:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice isn't spontaneously dangerous. Women like adventure and excitement. You can't be nice putting her in danger, eh?
After they get tired of "exciting jerk guy" then they look for Mr. Nice since he doesn't usually cheat. :P
2007-01-19 10:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by bobble242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz hot, skaters that arent social are hott... and if their dad will approve of you... not cool
2007-01-19 10:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by summersweetheart_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋