My boyfriend was fine untill i started talking to Jason the hottest guy in the school...and he been being all jealous
and he seems to be all sad everyday
he wants to make out more i come over to his house everyday when i get off the bus
he has just been sad he constantaly tells me he loves me
and he wants to go to the movies EVERY FRIDAY
..the problem is y is he cutting him self i saw it on his arm and i asked him why and he said it's something to do whit jason and i just freaked out and he said i love you whats the problem?
2007-01-19 10:28:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i call him
**JASON IS NOT MY BOYFRIEND*
2007-01-19 10:38:17 · update #1
sounds like you don't care enough about your boyfriend to admit something is wrong. If you don't plan on spending the rest of your life with your boyfriend. Dump him now. I suggest you speak with a counselor first, and soon.
2007-01-19 10:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by forcedprogress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is something wrong. Your boyfriend is very insecure. Why did you start talking to Jason? Why did you refer to him as the "hottest guy in school"? Have you noticed how differently you behave when you are around Jason? Your boyfriend can see that Jason is a threat to your relationship. You, unfortunately, don't think of your boyfriend as the hottest guy. That would hurt me too.
What if Jason starts showing you some "act right"? Will you then leave your boyfriend for him? You are young. Feelings can change. Don't lead your current boyfriend on if you have feeling for another. Let him down easy. Talk to him.
On another note. If your boyfriend is harming himself because via cutting, he needs professional help. Your boyfriend is depressed. When you talk to him include his parents or bring someone with you. He may hurt both of you if this gets out of hand. Talk to a grown-up or seek professional advice. Your parents are an excellent source. You will not only be helping your boyfriend, but yourself.
2007-01-19 18:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by NawlinsB4Real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him to stop being passive-aggressive and just tell you what is wrong. Playing games with your emotions and hurting himself is a tactic a person with a mental health problem would use to get attention. He needs to talk to a counselor. He also seems to have a controlling streak, if this all started because you are talking to another guy.
You should probably not go over to his house everyday.
When I was in High school I did the same thing, and my visits seemed to mean little or nothing to him unless we "made out" but if I didn't come over he would go into a deep depression....
So just tell him you have extra homework or need to babysit a sibling and take some time to yourself. This way you can rest from his issues, and he can learn to cope without having you in his control everyday.
Also, I hope you have the sense to keep the "hottest guy" crap out of any discussion your boyfriend might hear. How would you feel to hear him describe some other girl as "The hottest girl?"
2007-01-19 18:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if you think that jason is the hottest guy in school, and you are obviously not with him by what it says under your pic, then i dont think you need to be with the guy you are with now. he deserves better than you. if you love him then he should be the hottest guy in school not jason. and as far as the cutting you need to tell someone that he is doing that so that he can get help before it gets too bad. and for god sakes honey if you want jason then let the current one go and go get jason. dont drag the current along.
2007-01-19 18:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by cmgrpgdjg0406 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he your bf, might be a little insecure with himself... just keep reminding him that you love him, and that you wouldn't do anything to put your relationship at risk.... and maybe back off from talking to that other guy... If it bothers him, try to be understanding on how he preceves things as well. And don't go calling another guy at your school "the hottest guy" what the crap is wrong with you, that's probably why your boyfriend has these insecurities... don't play games, don't be selfish...
2007-01-19 18:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with at w you sound attracted to this guy... Any way your boyfriend should trust you and the fact that he doesn't makes you think about you relationship...
On th other hand are you complaining that you boyfriend is spending to much time with you.. I would love to have a boyfriend that " wants to make out more" and constantly tells me he loves me and he wants to go to the movies EVERY FRIDAY"
I think you are secretly have the hots for this guy and you won't admit it...
If you are attracted to another guy my advise to you is don;t act on it and If you decided to end the relationship your in know let him down easy..
This isn't an easy question for me to answer but I did my best I could...
Good Luck
2007-01-19 18:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by devilsadvocate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like when the "hottest guy in the school" started talking to you, you just decided that your BF was old news. Something to keep in range in case this Jason kid splits and dumps you, but for now he's in the cool. That doesn't sound like love to me! Either pay a little more attention to your real BF or just dump him to ease his pain. Keep reminding him that you love him, cuz u never know, he could get suicidal.
2007-01-19 18:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Just Another Broken Heart♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure!!! It doesnt take a genious to see that and just the fact that you are talking to other guys shows how much you really love him!!! If you love him then there is no need for you to talk to other guys so cut jason lose or dump the boyfriend. He deserves better than for you to lead him on like that.
Sorry if I sound rude but I just can't stand when people do **** like that!!
2007-01-19 18:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are saying that jason is the hottest guy in the school then ur boyfriend is going to feel down and hurt himself,coz he loves u and thinks that u dont love him anymore as u r saying:Jason the hottest guy in the school...do u really love ur boyfriend?
2007-01-19 18:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by aycicek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u love him nd that u just r talking 2 a friend that is a guy. tell him that if jason cuts his arms then he should stop hanging out with him but u r telling this b.c u care about him nd that u r not choosing hu he should hang out with but u r just looking out 4 him. tell him that he is gettting 2 jealous over nothing nd hope that he stops the cutting of the rists nd tell a parent or som1 u totaly trust about the cutting of the rists...that is serious
2007-01-19 18:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋