Let me rephrase the question a little better. Do you think this is strange for a single divorced women to take back her maiden name when the divorce was final, but still call herself a Mrs.?
My Husbands ex-wife constantly refers to herself in the third person and it is by the name of Mrs. [maiden name]
We have already established that she has a screw loose, but this is just weird. Don’t you agree?
2007-01-19 10:18:58 · 21 answers · asked by November Hale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Setting aside my feelings for his ex-wife.
Personally I think it is strange.
Ms. Ex-wife asked for the divorce because she was cheating on him and her conscious got the best of her.
Ms. Ex-wife made the choice to change back to her maiden name.
And now all of a sudden she is calling herself "Mrs." Ex-wife, as if she has this imaginary husband.
His ex-wife has done allot worse. But this is confusing for the children.
2007-01-19 10:54:42 · update #1
Yes, I agree, wierd.
My sister took back her maiden name. She uses the good old "Ms."
2007-01-19 10:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it is weird. It just seems as if she has a problem with being divorced. Not that she still wants your now husband, but more-so that she can't detach from the concept of marriage. Some people are raised with more strain and emphasis on being married, and it can in some families be an enormous disgrace not to be married by a certain age and even more of a disgrace to have been married and is now divorced.
It is more sad than weird. I think there is a underlying, emotional issue. It can be her way of showing herself as well as others that although she may not have anyone now at one time in her life somebody loved her enough to marry her. Maybe she likes/needs to be reminded of that.
Or the very last scenario could be that she just does it to try and piss you off - although I doubt this is the reason.
2007-01-19 10:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Drea G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it......if no children I can understand why she would want her maiden name back and technically once married and divorced the Mrs is still appropriate as she sure isn't a MS any longer or Miss by a long shot.
2007-01-19 10:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by zeb692004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's weird to refer to yourself in the third person to begin with. That it is not appropriate to refer to someone as Mrs.
2007-01-19 10:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little outdated but technically someone who was married before can still go by Mrs. even after the divorce or the husband dies. Who knows why she would still want to but it is still acceptable. If she is a very religous person, then maybe that is her reason. If she was his first wife, it says she will always be his one and only wife unless she dies.
**Don't go out and kill her though. LOL!!**
2007-01-19 10:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it seems odd. But all people who have an ex that is difficult will say that their ex has a screw loose.
Referring to yourself in the third person is a real turn off to anyone with any intellectual capacity at all. It's a twisted way of talking down to people.
2007-01-19 10:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does seem odd to me. I am not the queen of etiquette, but I think she should have become Ms. Maiden Name or Ms. His Name (her choice which).
But if that's the worst manifestation of her loose screw, I'd say you're doing okay.
2007-01-19 10:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she ever plans on finding someone, and maybe get married again one day then yes. it is weird. and it will be a major turn off for guys cause it just shows that she has not moved on and she is still hung up on the ex hubby. i mean i know its probably hard for someone to let go of a marriage, especially when they didnt want it to end, but she will never get a guy like that.
2007-01-19 10:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by cmgrpgdjg0406 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong answer here: you use whichever is her preference. It is a fallacy that divorced women "should" be addressed as "Ms". This title simply means that you are female and can be used by any woman regardless of whether she is married, single or divorced.
2016-05-23 22:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Area 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is very upsetting for people because there is a lot of drama involved. Perhaps it gives her a feeling of hope even though she is divorced...she may still love her ex and wishes that things had worked out...I don't think she is nuts
2007-01-19 10:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋