Family & Relationships - 19 September 2006

I am a 33 year mother of 2 small kids who has been in a very verbally/ emotionally abusive relationship for 12 yrs, married 8. I have done everything within my power to keep our marriage together but I realize that I can't change him and he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong for him to change. He won't go to counseling with me and he keeps saying that everything is my fault and I've been a curse in his life( because i do try and stand up for myself). We are currently living together in our home which is 5 months behind on mtg. He brings home $1,000 a wk. and gives me $50 to $60 a wk. for "allowance". Mind you, I have to buy my own food and gas etc., out of that. He calls me horrible names, screams in my face and puts his "people" before me in everything. He says that he won't give me a dime more until the court makes him pay me. He bought the kids 2 cheap *** outfits for school and buys expensive things for himself. u know why he won't file, but when I do i don't want guilt.

2006-09-19 11:14:45 · 7 answers · asked by Veronique 3 in Marriage & Divorce

such as fingers...highth...weight..etc?

2006-09-19 11:14:27 · 22 answers · asked by dpegra 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm feeling generous again! [Yay!] Say anything u want, on two conditions though:

1. It's not rude, and directed at me.

2. As long as Y! doesn't delete your answer.

2006-09-19 11:11:51 · 31 answers · asked by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 in Singles & Dating

I'm 21 and he is 37. I can see myself with this man for the rest of my life.

2006-09-19 11:11:41 · 34 answers · asked by "B" 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we had our date set and our kids were excited and he goes out drinks and sleeps with some girl, lies to me about it for a month and then says he only kept the lies up because he thought i wouldnt take him back now, but he let the little tramp call the cops on me when i was banging on her door to make him come out to come home and help with his twins (19 months) and 5 month old
he still tells me he didnt know why he did it in the first place, we are going to councling but it isnt completly working he still keeps saying he's leaving me when we fight and uses it as a weapon toward me any comments and please be helpful ones not just random ones --- i want things to go back to the way they used to be for our family but i just cant stop thinking about it

2006-09-19 11:10:58 · 10 answers · asked by nellie 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

From latin or central america?

2006-09-19 11:10:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

And when im talking to him i dont know what to talk about, im shy and he says he likes me just the way i am. He calls me every single day about 3-4 times a day and i get bored of him, i never call him unless i missed his call. I don't know what to do, its not that i dont want to be with him because i do... but i just dont know... i want to communicate with him more. When i see him i dont like to be alone with him because it feels awkward.
Help?

2006-09-19 11:10:09 · 11 answers · asked by stuffed shark1 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

...With all due respect, have you ever farted through your vaginas? I once, very long ago, had a g/f who involuntarily did. No other g/f after that did. Is it something common?

2006-09-19 11:08:49 · 18 answers · asked by Twisted&Demented 1 in Singles & Dating

How do u help a friend when she cryies cause whenever my friend is crying I don't know what to do? OH yeah and the people that answered my question last time I'm not in fourth grade or in fifth either. I hate it whenever my friend cryies and I never know how to make her fell better.

2006-09-19 11:07:37 · 8 answers · asked by Sami 3 in Friends

I don,t know why but i have these neighbours and they have put me through crap, hte woman stares at us all the time, everytime we go into the garden she came out watches us, and he has smashed me and my kids windown, taken parts of my kids trampoline and put superglue through our keyholes and lots of things, the thing is i have ignored them, the last year and i have noticed they have split up and he is alone now, i feel they have got their comuppence for the bad things they have done or something, i should not be but we have had to suffer for so long, i feel like its their time no wthey have been giving out so much crap, shouting swearing at me, i feel they have got their comuppence. what goes round comes around, I should not feel pleased but a bit of me is. They have been so nasty to me. I think God is getting back at them for their nastyness. I have noticed that sometimes people who are really nasty to others get things happen to them. does anyone else think so too.

2006-09-19 11:07:28 · 4 answers · asked by guysmithdenise 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Who would you let eat you?

2006-09-19 11:07:19 · 4 answers · asked by MЯ BAIT™ 6 in Friends

How come when one someone admits to another person they love them, the person they admitted it to DOESN'T. Yet that person, the one THEY love, doesn't love them back?
What's the deal with loving someone who doesn't love you?

2006-09-19 11:06:20 · 14 answers · asked by AJAY 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay, here is goes again:
Soon to be EX wants our girls EVERY weekend, and Monday and Wednesday evenings. He is refusing to co-operate. When WE worked on the divorce papers, we sat down together and figured out custody and support. Now after the papers have already been filed, he says he wont pay that much, that he cannot afford it. He says that his overtime DOES NOT count as income, and his second job doesn't count as income either. He is just going by an hourly rate at 40 hours a week. He has now presented me with 3 new child support worksheets that I could choose from. This is just showing that it has nothing with him wanting to see the girls, he just doesn't want to pay. HELP!!! I need legal advise. He says he has a lawyer. I cannot afford one.

2006-09-19 11:03:51 · 3 answers · asked by arizonakellie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Here is the situation. I am 21 years old. I already have two degrees. I am financially stable, etc. I am ready to get married, BUT I have a wound left by a previous relationship that almost lead to marriage. This wound greatly effects the relationship I am in now, even though it has been 3 years since. I have known this girl for over a year now, and for so long it was going great. Then I got scared, because of my wound. I asked for time away to think and told her I did not want to continue the relationship. About four months went by and now I think I made a huge mistake. I told her how I felt in early Septmeber, and I think she loves me, and she wants to spend her life with me. However, NO ONE agrees. Not our friends or families. Our mutual friends remind me of how much I hurt her, (I know I did) but when I ask for advice, about maybe marrying her, they act as if I just met her in Septmeber. They say I should not talk about marriage. I need to say something, right?

2006-09-19 11:03:10 · 8 answers · asked by thomearch 1 in Singles & Dating

For the past week she has been feeding me bag after bag of spinach, I know she likes muscles because her close freind Rico is really well built, but I'm starting to feel sick to my stomach. When I ask her she just tells me to "Eat up".

2006-09-19 11:03:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

hey guys, what do you like in girls. what color hair, eyes, height, or just any little stuff. and what do you like about what they do? thanks so much!

2006-09-19 11:02:58 · 21 answers · asked by blondie_babe2324 2 in Singles & Dating

where can i find free do it yourself wedding invitations online? i want to find a web site that i can go on and custimize them and then print them off here instead of paying a fortune for them!

And serious answers only! please!

2006-09-19 11:01:16 · 12 answers · asked by Ima Tripps daughter 2 in Weddings

i am not sure if i like this guy, but he makes me feel so comfortable when im wit him, and he hugs me everyday. But the thing is, im not sure he like me. He also hugs a lot of other girls, and i want to just be friends wit him but i think of him more than that.

2006-09-19 11:01:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i want to see how many of u tell people the real truth or just say they are handsome or beautifull..or if u tell a lie is it for some purpose.for guys like having sex with the girl..share ur view girls and guys

2006-09-19 11:00:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-19 11:00:14 · 19 answers · asked by Twisted&Demented 1 in Singles & Dating

How long into a relationship (years wise) should the idea of engagement be brought up, if both people are happy

2006-09-19 10:59:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I LOVE YOU!

2006-09-19 10:59:44 · 19 answers · asked by The Global Community 3 in Singles & Dating

The past few weeks my family has been hinting that they think I am not straight and that "I need to get right with God". So I doubt they believe I am straight, and I never told them anything for them to think otherwise! In fact I insist that I am straight!

Also earlier today, one of my friends, who told me four months ago he was gay, asked me straight out if I was gay, I said no, then he asked if I was bi, again I said no. Knowing him, unless there was an obvious reason for asking such a question, he would not of asked...

So, do you think there is a tiny chance that as I deny being anything but straight, they might, even very slightly, believe I am straight...? If no, how can I make them...?

2006-09-19 10:59:36 · 19 answers · asked by John 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My bf wants to have sex what should i say

i want to but to be married first
maybe he'll leave me help me

2006-09-19 10:59:04 · 2 answers · asked by sasha234 1 in Singles & Dating

He was emailing other woman,asking for photo's and talking dirty...you get the idea....
Telling one girl he loved her still and wants to meet her in Europe! He is in Iraq,and we were just married this year!!! If I can't trust him now,should I move on? And before I hear "well he is in Iraq..Boo hoo" I have been home alone all year and he freaks out if I go to the store~~ I have managed to be good,and not email guys or even care to. I think tables may turn though now...What do you think?

2006-09-19 10:58:21 · 47 answers · asked by Holly 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-19 10:58:13 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth P 1 in Weddings

2006-09-19 10:58:09 · 12 answers · asked by zubr z 1 in Singles & Dating

Love is full of rejections. But I didn't go it would go far.. He has a girlfriend and everyone throws mean comments at me. I don't care if I get slapped. I DO deserve it. I deserve going to hell too. I'm such a sore loser that cant get a guy to like without no girlfriend. How do I fix this mistake in my life.. I already cried, what else? Go suicidal? I don't care if there is other guys out there, I like this one and I've been liking him for almost a month now. How do I fix a dumb mistake and my dumb immature self?

2006-09-19 10:58:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What do they have the kids do? Are activities planned for the kids? Whay kind of activities?
Tell me about it.

2006-09-19 10:58:00 · 1 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family

it seems like they are having a great time on the cost of men.
do these woman change? do they get punished?
how many women are like this?

2006-09-19 10:57:39 · 9 answers · asked by canuckclint 3 in Singles & Dating