Here is the situation. I am 21 years old. I already have two degrees. I am financially stable, etc. I am ready to get married, BUT I have a wound left by a previous relationship that almost lead to marriage. This wound greatly effects the relationship I am in now, even though it has been 3 years since. I have known this girl for over a year now, and for so long it was going great. Then I got scared, because of my wound. I asked for time away to think and told her I did not want to continue the relationship. About four months went by and now I think I made a huge mistake. I told her how I felt in early Septmeber, and I think she loves me, and she wants to spend her life with me. However, NO ONE agrees. Not our friends or families. Our mutual friends remind me of how much I hurt her, (I know I did) but when I ask for advice, about maybe marrying her, they act as if I just met her in Septmeber. They say I should not talk about marriage. I need to say something, right?
2006-09-19 11:03:10 · 8 answers · asked by thomearch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I should add that there is a little bit of pressure, just because I am about to make a big move a long way from her. So I need to know she knows how I feel, and I want to know how she feels. If she does love me, I am willing to make the necessary sacrifices.
2006-09-19 11:24:52 · update #1
What's your hurry to marry. Take your time and when it is right, then act.
2006-09-19 11:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, I definately think you should say something to her, earn her trust back. If you really want to be with her, you should tell her how you feel. But at the same time, why rush into marriage? How do you know you're ready if you were just scared 4 months ago? Why not get into a relationship with her, date a while and Then decide if you want to marry. You're only 21~!!!
2006-09-19 18:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey congratulation to you for having so much at 21 years old with school and financial stability , I'm 21 too so i know how big that is. As for you relationship problem, your only twenty 21years old you'er so young, wait awhile and think things through, you may figure things out fully if you wait, don't rush into things and make a mistake and have another wound to heal. wait until your really sure about what you want to do.(if you want) ..why are you so hurry to get married anyway.
2006-09-19 18:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bold one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking about marriage for starters. You let an old wound, from an old love, ruin something wonderful. You can't compare people like that. Look what happened, you broke up and now you want her back. She is not a yo-yo. You can't play her like that. What happens if you freak out again.
Get over the past and move on.
2006-09-19 18:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u two are happy and in love with each other then u should do something about it. my wife and i have only dated for 3 months and engaged for 6 months. we have been happily married for 2 years and counting and we have a son together. we are both 21 as well. i would be lost with her in my life, just glad i made the right choice and didn't listen to others.
2006-09-19 18:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to give it some time, since you broke it off she might not be ready to settle down, also you are only 21 for god sakes, slow down and enjoy life. I got married young the first time (21) and it ended bad.....
2006-09-19 18:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go sew the royal oats, DUDe
2006-09-19 18:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by middleshoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah
2006-09-19 18:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋