How long into a relationship (years wise) should the idea of engagement be brought up, if both people are happy
2006-09-19 10:59:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on the people. MY husband and I met in August, and started dating in november of 2000. in august of 2001 we got engaged and in october of 2001 we got married. now 5 years later we are still together. granted, we were living in england at the time and all of our family was in the states, so it was easier to go fast like that for us, but we are happy none the less.
2006-09-19 11:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no hard and fast rules in this matter but a general rule used to be that you should not marry a person until you had wintered and summered with them which would mean a year. An engagement means marriage and you should take time to get to know someone before you make such a committment. Anyone can put on an act for a few hours or even a few dates but to keep one up under constant contact for a year or more is very very hard to do and if someone can honestly do that then they must love you or you are really rich
2006-09-19 18:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I got engaged at the age of 20 (I'm 20 presently). (The girl isn't pregnant, and we're deep in love.) Well, I've known her since we were 11 and 12. I brought up getting married when I was like 13...I know it's was just a child's fantasy, but it's gonna come true. :) I don't think there's a real set time to bring up engagement, but I've heard averages of 3-5 years.
2006-09-19 18:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Da Nun Uttas Story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,in my honest opinion..I think it's kinda not the best idea for the woman to bring it up. Not to say some guys don't like that, but I know that most men will bring up the idea of engagement/marriage when they're ready (or at least thinking about it). If you bring it up, a guy could easily freak out, bc it's what they're good at. I'd wait, maybe casually bring up that you'd like to get married one day. My soon to be husband started talking about our future,and marriage w/o me saying a thing...bc he knew what he wanted w/me. Good luck,hope this helps!
2006-09-19 18:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's more than just time. Your lives both have to be finacially able to unite. Other situations too. Whos willing to move out from their current home? LIving arrangements and bills are some of the top things you might want to consider before bout take the ''i do''.
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much luck!
2006-09-19 18:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Gabri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just bring it up out of the Blue. Get a ring. Get down on one knee at a fancy resturant. Ask her the right way. And you need to keep waiting till you no longer need to ask this question.
2006-09-19 18:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by womanofthefire80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think their really is one. my wife and i were together nine months before we got married (no we didn't get married cause of pregnancy. we didn't get pregnant til after we got married. lucky us!) We were only dating for 3 months and engaged for 6 months. we have been happily married for 2 years and counting.
2006-09-19 18:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One year is long enough. You don't want to waste time on someone who isn't interested in a commitment.
2006-09-19 18:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least wait a year, if not 2 or more.
2006-09-19 18:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how both people feel about marriage. being happy and in love or just happy?
2006-09-19 18:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋