Okay, here is goes again:
Soon to be EX wants our girls EVERY weekend, and Monday and Wednesday evenings. He is refusing to co-operate. When WE worked on the divorce papers, we sat down together and figured out custody and support. Now after the papers have already been filed, he says he wont pay that much, that he cannot afford it. He says that his overtime DOES NOT count as income, and his second job doesn't count as income either. He is just going by an hourly rate at 40 hours a week. He has now presented me with 3 new child support worksheets that I could choose from. This is just showing that it has nothing with him wanting to see the girls, he just doesn't want to pay. HELP!!! I need legal advise. He says he has a lawyer. I cannot afford one.
2006-09-19 11:03:51 · 3 answers · asked by arizonakellie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say the papers are filed so let them ride. Your husband and atty are trying to get you to agree to restructured child support before going to court only because he know hes in trouble. The courts are going to honor the filed ones because theyre signed. Now in granting support, the courts dont care how he makes the payments just as long as they are made, so the courts dont really care how many hours he works or how many jobs he has. So he has one chance to lower his payment and thats to do it before court and this is exactly what hes doing. Hes probably going to use visitation as leverage but as long as the signed papers are filed, none of this matters. If in court he doesnt want his visitation time,the judge will give him Arizonas mandated visitation rights. You dont really need an atty right now or probably ever because of those papers. Let him pay the big bucks for an atty to try and change those papers. If the courts figure you need one the judge will tell you, but stand firm on those papers and youll be alright. Do not ever sign any papers from your husband or his atty concerning anything. If youre not sure, please feel free to email me and I ll help you . If you want to drive him or them up the wall, if they talk to you, just tell them youll have to check with your legal advisor, but dont tell him who I am nor ever describe me as an atty. I am only a freelance paralegal but can get you thru this as Ive helped hundreds over the years. Only disclose me if the judge asks and this should keep the harassment down cause they have no idea who you have.
2006-09-19 11:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I understand the financial strain of raising children. Secondly, I don't understand why most people (not saying you) pawn their children off for money. Now, its his responsibility to help you raise your children. Even if that means that he has to pay a significant amount of money. If he works all that over time then he can afford to make payments. Go back to court (at his expense) This time do it through a court mediator. That way he cannot convince, or change any changing stipulation on your behalf. Don't tell him, just do it and then maybe he will wish he could have stayed with the original order..
Been there.
2006-09-19 11:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we will pay what ever the court tells him too.....if he dose not just tell DPS..they will TAKE it!
2006-09-19 11:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋