my off and on ex of 5 years randomly tells me he's engaged to a non-american citizen that he's known for 8 months. it caught me off garud but i was happy for him. i encourged him to find the "right" girl. she apparently lives in a different state and they see eachother 3 times a week. later he told me they already had a secret wedding for citizen ship. i though we could stay friends...but he caught me off gaurd and came onto me and i couldn't fight him. i still love him. it happened twice and now i've cut off all contact. i need help understanding why. it seems like the truth is he's a creep, but i'm having trouble believing that. i've known and respected him so long i'm hoping there is a better explination. i feel like there must be some emotional void on his end and he's running to me for help. maybe he wasn't ready for all that commitment. i DO not wish to win him back. i'm NOT feeling used or hurt, i can handle myself, but i need help understanding him. does he REALLY love her?
2007-12-21
18:06:11
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