I have an 11 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter. Their father left the day that she was born. There has been no contact since. 2 nights ago he shows up at my door, wanting to see my children. He claims that he tried to reach me several times in the 1st yr that he left, but that my mom intervened all times and told him they weren't his, DNA tests proved them to be someone elses', etc. This is probably true. My mom is prejudice, he's black. However, I filed child support 2 years ago, and DNA tests were performed then, proving him to be the father. So, no matter what, he's known for 16 months that he's got 2 kids over here. Do I allow him to see them? Do I take them to counseling? How do I explain this to them? I want to do what's right for the kids, no matter what. I just don't want tp traumatize them. He's married w/2 kids and 1 on the way. His wife wants him to have nothing to do with mine. What kind of situation does that put mine in on visiting day? HELP!!!
2007-03-10
05:18:25
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