Here is the situation: I became friends with a coworker over the past few weeks. Before I knew he was married, I sensed a huge attraction and it is clear that the feelings are mutual. Now, I have met his wife, and while I like her, it is difficult because the relationship she describes is completely doomed. I have NO intention of getting involved with him, as I do not mess with married men. Here is the problem: she complains about him constantly, talks about leaving, and asks my advice. I am trying to be fair and give her the advice I would give anyone else, which is that if she is unhappy, then she needs to figure out what would make her happy. I feel like a sneak because I really want this man in a bad way. I KNOW if they split that he and I would have a fling at the very least, so I worry that me giving any advice here is wrong. Avoiding them is not possible as we have mutual friends. If they ever DO split, would it be wrong for me to be with him, since I was friends with him first?
2007-03-10
05:16:03
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bcs_boadicea
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Marriage & Divorce