My father (now 82 yo) has never been expressive - never shown love, pride, affection, anything. 2 yrs back, my mom died and he came to live with us (in a country where sons are "expected" to take care of elderly parents). Since then things have gotten worse. He has never bothered to make any kind of relationship with my wife, ignores his grandchildren, uses the car, family resources, etc and still remains very selfish and unconcerned. Some time back I lost my temper and asked him to make choices in life. He got upset and now wants to move to an old-age home - this makes me feel guilty and sad. I know my family and I will probably feel better if he moves. Social and family expectations however are different. Deep down, I love him and don't want to lose him either. I know I sound confused and any advice will help.
2007-03-09
17:44:57
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