My 8 yr old son is bullied to the point he has a ulser. Any ideas on how to deal with this when the school is not helping?
2007-03-09 17:44:31 · 19 answers · asked by tauscha_miller 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
file a crimnal lawsuit. only thing you can do. and document every thing
2007-03-09 19:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I going to say some things that will seem like not the things to do. But if your son is being bullied it is because the other kid thinks he will not fight. Teach your son how to throw a few punches and how to protect himself while throwing the punches. It won't make any difference whether he wins the fight or not. It will come down to this if they know he will fight they will leave him alone. I know that mothers do not believe in fighting but sometimes you have to. It is just the way the world is. If you pull him from that school you will have to continue to do so all through school.
If the child doing the bulling is older and bigger it is time to have a seat in front of the Principal office and find out how this is going on. But still teach your child how to protect himself and that fighting is the last resource but on occasion you have to.
2007-03-10 02:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by edj009 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that your child is being bullied, it is something that no child needs to go through.
You do know that we have a no child left behind act? If you don't research the no child left behind act, print it and take it to the school. The school can lose Federal funding if they fail to protect any child.
My daughter had a boy draw and give a picture to her of a boy standing over a girl with curly hair pointing a gun at the girl and the girl was bleeding from the head. The boy's punishment from this threat was being sent home for the day.
I found that in the no child left behind act that a school can loose funding if they fail to act.
Go tho your sons school armed with information and they will tend to take you a little more serious.
I don't remember what i typed in to my search it was so long ago but I do remember it was in the no child left behind law
2007-03-10 02:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Marla D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be on the school's butt about what is happening, and if nothing comes of it then the next step would be to talk to the parent(s) of the bully. By talking to the parents you may be able to resolve the situation, or if the parents are also bullies then it could also make it worse, in which case you may need to take legal action of some sort. Regardless, something has to be done about it because no 8 y/o child should have to deal with medical problems due to another child bullying them.
2007-03-10 01:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son was always the small one, the one that if someone asked him to do it he would just so the others would like him.
Most of the kids took advantage of that when he was littler.
I finally told him that he had to follow these rules.
1. if someone is bothering you - tell them to please stop
2. if they don't stop - tell a teacher
3. if the teacher doesn't do anything - tell me
4. I talk to the school - they do nothing
5. he can do whatever it takes to make the kid stop...
I don't care if he has to punch an eye out..By gosh they will know my son said no....
It has given him the ability to tell them to quit. But it doesn't stop the kids from being mean.
I really push my kids to take up for themselves though.. Not in a harmful way but even to the teachers. If they don't get what is being taught and the teacher refuses to explain in a way they get it.. I want them to stand up for their rights to learn...
Just because I give them permission to do that doesn't me they do.
Even at 8 yrs old though I don't recommend you going to the school and telling the kids to leave your son alone.. That makes it worse on the kids and they will not tell you if any more trouble starts... They would rather get bullied than have mom go to the school and embarrass them any more.
I'd just tell your son that those kids aren't going to hurt him and if they did try to the school would have to step in.. But that he needs to show those bullies that he can stand on his own. He needs to come out of his shell and let them know he isn't scared of them. Most of those bullies are scared and bully just because they worry that someone else may see that they are scared.
Two of the guys that was bulling my son live in our neighborhood and my son got tired of their mess and struck back.. Needless to say they found out that getting hit hurts and hasn't messed with him since..
2007-03-10 02:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the school is not helping, threaten them with a lawsuit. It is their job to resolve bullying issues at school. Parents have sued schools for turning a blind eye to that sort of thing and won huge settlements.
Document each incident of bullying that you have reported to the school where no action was taken, get an appointment with the principal, put your list on his desk and say: "Unless something is done NOW, this list is going to my lawyer."
2007-03-10 02:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all try to find out why is he being bullied..just take him into confidence that nothing will happen to him....just ask him what their names are or who is he...u can just go speak to her or his parents and tell them that your son or daughter is bullying by son so you have to stop him this...if nothing happens then why is the police for??? Take their help and the matter will always be settled..so if it going too high then you have to take a bold step for the safety of your son.
2007-03-10 01:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Shilpa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight the school! I have to deal with a bad principal my son is 11 years old. I went over her head right to the superintendent. I explained my problem and threatened to go to the school board.......i got my way. you can sue the school for not doing anything about it. you can sue the bully's parents. Try to get it on film. Fight for your child!!!!!!!
2007-03-10 03:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go over the school's head. Contact the Board of Education.
2007-03-10 03:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the education dept. Then try to talk to the bully's parents. If that doesn't work go and hit this kid in the jaw and say how does it feel for you now?
You can also try the police, media if you like
2007-03-10 02:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good idea to call the bully's parents. They may not realize they're child is behaving this way. I'm very sorry to hear about your son's ulcer. Good luck!
2007-03-10 01:49:26 · answer #11 · answered by Manny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋