All categories - 26 January 2007

Cliff notes of my marriage: See other postings to get the most information #1 post “Will My Wife Turn into my mother-in-law?” #2 post “Need some help with my wife” Both posted today 01/25/2007.
My wife has depression. She has continues to lie, steal, deny, be stubborn, difficult, (on things that made no sense) and maybe cheat (not sure on that one) I have two step children, she’s been married twice, my first time. Treat them very good. She moved from the south to the NE where my job is. Within a month noticed my wife undermining the me/ family. So much that my step daughter underwent counseling for depression (cutting, “can only be happy in the south” her mom’s doing, and unsure of her sexual orientation. Spent thousands but, my step daughter was worth it. I was to work & she was to be the home keeper (One of our pre-marriage agreements) did the opposite till I said OK to her working ,now doesn’t want to work(and isn’t) Gave her plenty of cash & a credit card for emergencies. Used that card 15 to 30 times a month for 10 months (till she gave it back/ I said enough, I was very kind and loving) all while I am tending to my terminally sick mom (Talk about blind sided). Went through many more card methods nothing worked (no trust/keeps lying & stealing in other ways to) Found out a was funding my wife’s secret bank account. Within 6 months, Mother-in-law hit me up directly for money (which I gave to her) and later found out she expected monthly handouts because I have a good job.(wife denies all)
Found out I was going to lose my job in a couple months (airline down cycle) she refused to get a full time job cause “I don’t want to do any of those jobs” Said it will be temporary to get us through this tough time. I said let’s keep the kids(hers) in private school and keep the house. Still wouldn’t get a job. Sold my motorcycle, golf club membership and my SUV to lead the cutbacks. She demanded new furniture while I downsized. Luckily I found a job. Said she could have a tubel (sp) reversal (before marriage) not true .See below, felt really doped on that one, I know she knew that). There have been some good times, she is nice looking , can be a sweetheart, sex is good, my family all likes her (but they don’t know any of this). Just this week found out that my wife also has secret PO Box, she got 3 more cards in her name, pays her cards debt w/ my (families) money. I could write about her behavior for hours. I would kindly forgive all this stuff but it keeps on happening. It’s been bottled up for years except for our two councilors. I’m afraid nothing is working. I’d also like my own children

If you meet her you would like her. But she acts different around other people and 80% good around me and the kids. She also has many great qualities (she hide the others pretty good before our marriage) Sex drive is fine, never denies me, good cook, good looking, good mother in many ways, nice personality, doesn’t really drink and is outgoing Her other crazy behavior is overshadowing all her nice qualities. Why do I stay? Maybe a sense of duty, commitment, feeling of responsibility to the kids etc… When do I call it quits? I’m thinking now but I’m trying to seek out others veiws before I act. Also want to shelter her kids.

Here is another big problem she can’t have children. She said she could have reversal but that was a lie (she knew it) so I have to spend 30k on IVF, started the process and before it happened, Doctor said she can’t have a child. I realize that she may have not known that part but why do I pay a Doctor to tell me her tubes were singed not tied when she knew it. Again an example of her lies than deny to the end) Maybe this was my breaking point. Lying about not being able to have kids is a big deal, right? That alone Do I file?

2007-01-26 19:19:40 · 10 answers · asked by Concerned Husband 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This bestfriend (guy) of mine(whom I'm starting to like) got mad at me last year on December for not giving him his space. SInce then, we rarely talk but he did greeted me in my birthday (via phone) As classes resumed, we still rarely talk but I could see him looking at me in some instances. I tried my best to give him the space he wanted (even if it hurts). After a few weeks, he seems to be coming back to the way we used to be (talking, telling jokes, sharing experiences,.) but the difference is, we're not together anymore, instead he's with his guy friends and I'm with my girlfriends. Whenever he tells a joke w/ my friends, he always looks at me & laughs. One time, I heard him talking to one of the girls in class (but I pretend I didn't hear anything) saying that he had a "new" crush on someone...Odd since whenever he had a crush on someone, he always tells me about it(in fact, I know all the girls he like but not this one). Was he hiding something from me that I should know?

2007-01-26 19:19:37 · 10 answers · asked by acerbus18 1 in Friends

2007-01-26 19:19:27 · 11 answers · asked by Opeal 1 in Politics

2007-01-26 19:19:24 · 10 answers · asked by howardlee1977 4 in Movies

walking&running is dificulting,now sit tostanding is very face to more proublem.i chek the doctor this rhumatalog&nueralogy. they is no medicine&no name this is new case.actualy all reports is normal, so what do.my age 24 years this proublems to starts since 7years,child to tenage iam very good&playing cricet&running anthor games also good,and nobody in my family this proublem,they are very good. now my bother also same proublem just 3 years,age is 20 year.hands is normal but thais is very thik&weekness.and my small brother is very good.age is 11years,he is very sharp.good player.but my thout is he is face thea same proublem in tenage.this my dout,became my second brother also same to me,my proublems.so please give me good advaised.

2007-01-26 19:19:24 · 3 answers · asked by p_venu_g 1 in Grade-Schooler

Can't deny the facts.

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2007-01-26 19:19:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Religion & Spirituality

my husband wants to know!

2007-01-26 19:19:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Maintenance & Repairs

Who said the lady was finished?.She won in style.

2007-01-26 19:19:10 · 11 answers · asked by melbournewooferblue 4 in Tennis

In the 1988 U.S. presidential campaign, Republican presidential candidate George H. W. Bush reportedly said, "I don't know that atheists should be regarded as citizens, nor should they be regarded as patriotic. This is one nation under God." President Bush never apologized for the comment.

What would have happened if he said blacks intead of atheists in that statement?

2007-01-26 19:19:08 · 4 answers · asked by Born again atheist 3 in Religion & Spirituality

i have just got a 10 month old shar-pei and he barks alot especially when people enter the house. Is there any methods to stoppping this that are inexpensive and humane ??
I live in a terraced house and i dont want him to cause problems !!!

2007-01-26 19:19:00 · 10 answers · asked by winla 1 in Cats

I mean how would he fight crime there would be nothing to sling his webs too.....

2007-01-26 19:18:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Comics & Animation

will you push them like bruises?

2007-01-26 19:18:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Polls & Surveys

Hi. I live in an HDB flat and am trying to drill holes in a wall to ifix some shelves. I barely drill 0.5cm and i come across some what I believe is some iron or metal in the conrete and i am unable to drill further. A using a black and decker with a silver drill bit ideal for concrete. Has anyone come across this problem? Also does anyone know any person who would come and help out (like a handyman) at a cost of course. Hope this helps. Thanks. Chris

2007-01-26 19:18:36 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Maintenance & Repairs

Is it the same as 3PL?

2007-01-26 19:18:23 · 3 answers · asked by Hattan 2 in Corporations

and instead just nod their head, but everything you say goes into one ear and out the other? Then they continue doing what they were doing before and pretend you never said anything, no matter how many times you tell them?

2007-01-26 19:18:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Society & Culture

They want to ask me a few more questions so I'm calling in a while, I'm more nevous now than I ws at the interview! I wish I new what questions they want to ask....oh well I'll call them! Thats the only way to find out!

2007-01-26 19:17:44 · 7 answers · asked by Winnie2004 2 in Careers & Employment

2007-01-26 19:17:43 · 11 answers · asked by lovika k 1 in Other - Politics & Government

i was recently stabed in the back by an ex-friend and would like ideas on how to get even! thank you! hopefully not fatal because i cant afford a lawsuit at this moment! thank you!

2007-01-26 19:17:38 · 11 answers · asked by a 3 in Friends

2007-01-26 19:17:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Religion & Spirituality

Please tell me my art sucks so I can quit painting! Honestly I don't know if these are any good. Let me know what you think.

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2007-01-26 19:17:28 · 13 answers · asked by Jtotheunior 3 in Painting

If I have some problems, such as slowness from abuse as a child are these, parts of the brain able to be trained to become closer to normal if I get therapy or something?

2007-01-26 19:17:20 · 9 answers · asked by raymanfranks 1 in Mental Health

anybody here judge someone on there looks and choose that not to get to know the person before ever getting to know there perosonality?

2007-01-26 19:17:13 · 12 answers · asked by oboyherewego20 1 in Other - Society & Culture

Hi...I've got an amaryllis that has a densly reticulated red pattern on white background...Possibly "Hercules".... Is this plant self Fertile?...I'm keeping some of its pollen for crossing on another form...Anyway...The Question is "Are these common dutch hybrids Self-Fertile?"... Can I cross this variety with another one (say, pure red or pure white) successfully?

2007-01-26 19:17:04 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Garden & Landscape

hide them even if we said its okay to have friends from the opposite sex, his reasons 4 doing this was to apperently not to hurt a very sensitive wife, is this cheating in your eyes.

2007-01-26 19:16:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

people say im going to work myself to death a stupid question but is that possiable

2007-01-26 19:16:53 · 6 answers · asked by mercury_marsh 2 in Other - Health

I've been with the most amazing girl in the world for about 3 years now. We've decided we'd like to have a baby. Unfortunantly neither of us know if it is possible. I would love everyone's help and advice. Please don't judge us for being gay, We love each other and only want to get closer by having a baby.

2007-01-26 19:16:51 · 21 answers · asked by sweet_lemon_baby 1 in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

i am very curious to know .. what is the reason behind the origin of the symbol "+" for medicines that is used all over the world and unique among various languages.. from where it came into picture and how it is related for medicines. who started this... any history behind this symbol" + " .. especially " a Red Addition Mark "

2007-01-26 19:16:47 · 3 answers · asked by sundarsosweet 1 in Medicine

please name some of good bands and known please

2007-01-26 19:16:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Music

Hey guys.. I have just left school and I live in auckland new zealand. i want to know what the best kind of apprenticeship to do is. I am interested in getting an electrician apprenticeship, building, or marine cabinet making and marine electrician, i just want to know what the best move would be. I dont know things like what the apprenticeship will actually be like and how much money is in it when your qualified. Its hard to choose when all the people i talk to that are involved with hiring apprentices seem like they arent telling you what the job really is like. any help will be appreciated. thanks

2007-01-26 19:16:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Careers & Employment

Where i can get some photoes? If any were a site where i'm see how looks Indian Heroes by not wearing clothes? (sexy)

2007-01-26 19:16:30 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Internet