When I was a teenager I had crushes, and assumed that one day I'd feel that way about someone "for real" and that would be love. But at 34, I'm still waiting!
It's not as though I get involved with people who are all wrong for me. I'm happy enough in my relationships. My longest lasted six years, others of note have been four years and three years (the one I'm in now). But I've never felt love. I go straight from idle curiosity "he's nice, I wonder if this'll work out?" to feeling like we've been married for ten years.
Everyone ticks all the boxes - same sense of humour, things in common, compatible values - but I can easily imagine life without them, my heart doesn't skip a beat when I see them, I don't really think about them when they're not there. I'd be as happy being just friends with them.
Could it be that I still haven't met the right person? Am I expecting too much and "love" isn't like that? Or is this some sort of personality disorder that I just need to live with?
2006-12-31
23:52:40
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Snakey B
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