I have a friend that acts more like a husband than a friend.
He is always questioning what I do and trying to take up my time. He's a nice guy & has some great qualities but when I tell him to back off, he gets mad or fustrated and he keeps saying that I am breaking his heart. Or he accuses me of trying to date someone else (I am in my last year of college and have a family so all my attention can not be focused on him or anyone else for that matter).
And the only thing I can say is how am I breaking your heart and we are not even boyfriend & girlfriend? Should I leave him alone?
2006-12-31 23:53:46 · 18 answers · asked by Neea_Gastino 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See if you can get him to wear your panties for a day. That might soften him up a bit.
2006-12-31 23:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello Sexy_Neea_luscious, First off all I think the decision to leave him alone should be your own. Al tough this looks like someone that wants to be very involved with you and in the end could love you very much, it can also turn out to be someone with a dangerously possessive personality, one that in the future would not accept your involvement with anyone else! The fact that your just friends, indicates there might be something very wrong, but then again this is not necessarily the case. Maybe your unknowingly giving off an indication to him that you guys are more than just friends and your triggering this situation yourself.
Around here it's the saying that there is no such thing as love without some kind of jealousy!!
I'd say, sins your bothered, your relationship with him does mean something to you and you should think very good about this situation and try to get an objective opinion from someone who could know better and knows both of you personally and make !!your own!! decision from there.
Hope this is of some help to you!
( I would leave him but that's me)
2007-01-01 08:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by candy_john43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a possessive friend, and not easy to except a no answer, someone who couldn't be just friends.
There's cases where the person said that they would kill them self if the relationship ends.
i just hope it don't go that far,but in your case I would talk to him in a public place,not alone ,and put all the cards on the table and make it very clear to him ,what your intentions are.Be firm and clear. Try not to leave any little spark that would make him think that maybe sometime in the future things would be better for the both of you. This would make him hang on longer and make things worst.
2007-01-01 08:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by papa G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is attached to you and not in a good way. If i were you i would move away from him. He sounds like a bunny boiler. These type of people can turn violent so be very careful. I would also tell your family about what he is doing. I am sure they will help you to get rid of him without things turning nasty.
2007-01-01 08:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has issues. Simply stated rigid high control issues. Wether you stay or go is up to you, but Iwould recommend that you figure out what your boundaries are make them clear to your friend and stick to them. If he can't respect your boundaries why would you want to be involved with a friend like that? Good luck.
2007-01-01 09:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's very possessive and jealous. If he doesn't respect you enough to back off when you ask him then leave him alone. You're breaking his heart? He's full of crap.
2007-01-01 08:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!
Sounds like he is trying to put you on a corner. i can tell that you are much too strong for that.
There is a difference between being concerned for you and monitoring your every move.
Are you involved romantically / sexually ?
How do you feel about him as a friend, boyfriend, lover, partner?
Questions that you will need to ask yourself.
2007-01-01 08:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. If he is like this and not your husband, try to imagine the power he would try to have over you if he were.
Google the word emotional abuse.
Then you can make a clear decision.
Good luck.
2007-01-01 07:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by what's up? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him, it's bad enough when a partner is trying to control your life but when a friend does it, it's bang outta order, it's YOUR life it's got nothing to do with him what you do ok and even if you don't wanna you have to break it to him and he isn't gonna take it well but you need to do it or you'll be trapped for good
2007-01-01 07:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by soloxine_rabbit 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He wants more than you can give right now. Be very honest with him, but i doubt it will work very well. It sounds like he will just keep pushing to have more of your time and commitment. Be very honest and tell him you can not give him more right now and that he has to be happy with what you can give or nothing.
2007-01-01 07:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by don 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems to me he thinks you are dating. first of all discuss frankly with him your relatinship status to make sure you both percieve it in the same way. choose a dark bar with nice ambience to enable intimacy and honesty.
if he does understand you r not dating and that is his normal behavior for a just friend - defintatly go.
if not there will be double trouble when you actualy to try to date someone.
good luck
2007-01-01 07:59:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋