I am 19, he is 35. We have an outstanding time when we are together. We have been hanging out at spending time together for nearly 2 months. We cant technically be *together* until his divorce is final which is in a couple more weeks. We have what i think is an awesome relationship/friendship. I havent ever been with a guy or even friends with a guy that is not trying to get into my pants the 2nd or 3rd time we hang out.. he hasnt even tried since the day i told him i wasnt going to mess around with him and then get my heart broken by him while he is going through the divorce. He is very respectful of me and treats me like a diamond.. Things are great, but Is the age gap too akward?
2006-12-31 23:54:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is getting adivorce because his wife was cheating on him with his *best friend* for nearly 3 years. he took her back time and time again, but when she told him she was in love with his best friend, he said not again, and got rid of her. She has moved in with the *best friend*. Does that help yalls answers any??
2007-01-01 00:10:47 · update #1
I really don't think any age gap is too much, it's your life. Marry a person who makes you happy.
I would keep an eye on weather the divorce is really going to happen in two weeks. If it does, then by all means. If for some reason it doesn't and he has some valid sounding excuse, then you should re-evaluate. I've seen lots of my friends lie about divorce when they were fooling around. The fact is they are expensive, the alimony and child support can be killing and some people do not want to give up half their assets, which will include half of his retirement savings. And there can be other surprises too that you are not aware of.
Even in no fault divorce states, I hate to say it but when a divorce happens and the wife's lawyer knows that someone else is already in the picture, he won't get any breaks at all. He'll pay the whole 50 percent of assets, alimony if his wife earns less than he does and if he has children, he will pay substantial child support.
In two weeks, if the divorce doesn't happen, run don't walk. I read your additional details don't wait, run now, don't walk. Say you don't want to see him until the divorce goes through. If he turns angry, then you know.
2007-01-01 00:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep i think there is a age gap due to the fact u have not hv the same type of past in your past . what i mean is u r still exp, hormone changes hes past that . you r just learning how to date hes at the bottom end of this. U do not have real relationships in past . He does .Life is a learning exp. Enjoy it . Doesn't mean u can't see each other just don't get hooked so soon.. take time c what happens.My answer would b different, if u were 23 or 24 with a past.......
2007-01-01 00:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO the age gap shouldn't be a problem if you both enjoy each other's company there's no reason you can't hang out together. You're 19, you're mature enough to make your own relationship decisions.
2007-01-01 00:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love doesn't have an age, if it doesn't bother you, then it should be ok. Just wait until his divorce is final before you make any big decision. You have to look out for yourself. I'm 22 and my b/f is 36 and we have been dating for 4 months and we are perfect together, he keeps me balanced. Older guys are more mature and responsible. Good Luck hun!! Happy New Year!!
2007-01-01 00:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by barefootmodel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. You can go ahead. Up to certain extend age gap is not a factor which can make much difference. In your case this is not a problem. Best of Luck
2007-01-01 00:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by horizon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months isn't long enough to know anything about him,do you know why he is getting a divorce? Is he telling you all this? Have you been to his home? Don't get to emotionally involved, for now untill he shows you those divorce papers.
2006-12-31 23:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no age... who cares if theres a gap??? I'm 18, and my EX was 29... i know that's less then yours, but i dont care what other people think! if i like him that's all the matters...
2007-01-01 00:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_lavender@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the age gap is fine you seem very mature for your age . It depends how you feel, it really shouldn't matter what other people think.
2007-01-01 00:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 47 in love with some 34 and i'm thinking the same things
you can make it work but it is amazing in this time of acceptance how prevalent age discrimination is.
2007-01-01 00:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by sparetom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that is too big a gap, but if you're comfortable with it that's all that matters in the end. =)
2006-12-31 23:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋