My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months, but we have known each other for about 7 months or so. She lives in a different country and so we lived together for a bit and then she went back home because things were just kind of overwhelming at the beginning. The reason why I am posting is because we know that we love each other so much and that one day we want to get married, but it seems like lately she has been getting so upset because she wants to get engaged so soon and have the commitment and she gets upset because I don’t talk about it that much and I want to wait a bit so that we can get things taken care of first things like job, house and what not. She gets upset because she says we don’t have to get married for awhile; she just wants to get engaged. She protests that if we know that we want to be together and get married and such, why we should wait. I just say so we can take care of things before we get to that point and she gets so upset hearing things like that. I know she has had a last rough relationship and that she needs to reassured all the time, but she just will not let that go and brings it up all the time and just won’t give me a break about it when I told we were going to do it, I just wanted to take care of some things first and she just doesn’t think that that is the right thing to do. I love her death and we have some other issues we are dealing with right now, but that is the main thing.
How do I make her understand that waiting a bit is ok and that even though we both know we want to be together forever, it would be good just to make sure everything was pretty much inline. She is pretty stubborn about this so I don’t think is much to do, but I thought I would try. Thanks.
2006-11-04
20:25:32
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