I recently reconnected with an old friend from high school, and I was saddened to hear what she's been going through.
She married at 20; he was 26. She wanted to have children as early as possible because of a history of gynecological problems in her family, but he wasn't ready for kids until he was 32 and she was 26. Unfortunately, they were unable to have any before she had to have a hysterectomy at 28.
Last spring, while she was away for a month with a dying family member, her husband "got lonely" and had an affair with a temp at his work. This young lady informed him in the summer that she is pregnant and plans to give the baby up for adoption.
My friend's husband wants them to adopt the baby. She would be willing, but he and the young lady insist it must be an open adoption with the birth mother having frequent contact.
My friend says she just cannot do it if she has to see the birth mother all the time. Is she being unreasonable?
2006-10-09
21:53:34
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